WEEK 6 FORUM ASSIGNMENTGender Differences in PersonalityThis week, your forum assignment is about male and female differences in personality. What male and female differences in personality have you observed and where do you think they come from (e.g., are they learned, inborn, etc.)?NOTE: If you believe more than one personality theory explains male/female differences, give concrete examples. Link the theory you choose solidly to the personality differences you describe to provide evidence of your thorough comprehension of your selected theory by your accurate application of it rather than just picking a theory by name and listing characteristics believed by the general public to differ between genders. You must describe how the theory you choose explains specific differences. MINIMUM 300 WORDS.READINGPersonality TheoryCreated July 7, 2017 by userMark KellandKaren Horney stands alone as the only women recognized as worthy of her own chapter in many personality textbooks, and the significance of her work certainly merits that honor.  She did not, however, focus her entire career on the psychology of women.  Horney came to believe that culture was more important than gender in determining differences between men and women.  After refuting some of Freud’s theories on women, Horney shifted her focus to the development of basic anxiety in children, and the lifelong interpersonal relationship styles and intrapsychic conflicts that determine our personality and our personal adjustment.Personally, Horney was a complex woman.  Jack Rubins, who knew Horney during the last few years of her life, interviewed many people who knew her and came away with conflicting views:She was described variously as both frail and powerful, both open and reticent, both warm and reserved, both close and detached, both a leader and needing to be led, both timid and awesome, both simple and profound.  From these characterizations, the impression emerges that she was not only a complex personality but changeable and constantly changing.  She was able to encompass and unify, though with struggle, many diverse attitudes and traits… (pg. 13; Rubins, 1972)Erich Fromm, who was a lay-analyst with a Ph.D. (not an M.D. like most early psychoanalysts), focused even more than Horney on social influences, particularly one’s relationship with society itself.  He not only knew and worked with Horney personally, but the two were intimately involved for a number of years, and Fromm analyzed Horney’s daughter Marianne.  Both Horney and Fromm can be seen as extending Adler’s emphasis on social interest and cooperation (or the lack thereof), and their belief that individuals pursue safety and security to overcome their anxiety is similar to Adler’s concept of striving for superiority.Brief Biography of Karen HorneyKaren Clementine Theodore Danielssen was born on September 16th, 1885, in Hamburg, Germany.  Her father was Norwegian by birth, but had become a German national.  A successful sailor, he had become the captain of his own ship, and his family accompanied him on a few of his voyages, including trips around Cape Horn, along the west coast of South America, and as far north as San Diego in the United States.  Those trips established a life-long interest in travel, foreign customs, and diversity in the young Karen Horney.  Although her father was a stern and repressive man, her mother, who was Dutch and 17 years younger than Horney’s father, was a dynamic, intelligent, and beautiful woman who maintained a very happy home for the children (Kelman, 1971; Rubins, 1972, 1978).From early childhood, Horney enjoyed reading, studying, and going to school.  She was particularly interested in the novels of Karl May, who often wrote about the Native Americans, and Horney would play many games in which she pretended to be an Indian (usually, Chief Winnetou, a fictional character from May’s novels).  Her father believed that education was only for men, but her mother encouraged Horney’s schooling, and in doing so, set an example of independence that greatly influenced Horney’s life and career.  Horney followed the traditional education of the day, covering science, math, French, Latin, English, and the humanities.  She also took special classes in speech, and for a time was very interested in dancing, drama, and the theatre.  Despite the challenging curriculum, she was an excellent student, and often placed first in her class.  After being impressed by a friendly country doctor when she was 12, she decided to pursue a career in medicine.  When she began college at the University of Freiburg-in-Breisgau, at the age of 20, her mother came along to get her settled in and care for her.  Horney soon became good friends with Ida Grote, who moved in with Horney and her mother to help offset the costs of attending college.  In 1906, Horney also met her future husband, Oskar Horney (Kelman, 1971; Rubins, 1972, 1978).Over the next few years, she began her medical studies at the University of Gottingen, and then transferred to the University of Berlin, where she received her medical degree in 1911.  In 1909 she had married Oskar Horney, who was described as a tall, slim, handsome man, a brilliant thinker, gifted organizer, and possessing great physical and emotional strength.  He also attended the University of Berlin, eventually receiving doctorate degrees in Law, Economics, and Political Science!  They soon had three daughters, Brigitte, Marianne, and Renate (between 1911 and 1915).  Both Karen and Oskar Horney were successful in their careers during the beginning of their marriage.  He worked as a lawyer for a munitions company, and did very well financially.  She was actively developing her medical career, but had to work that much harder due to continued discrimination against women at the time.  Still, the family spent time together on weekends, when her brother’s family often visited, and vacations.  Nonetheless, the Horneys grew apart during these years.  In 1923, during the turmoil following World War I, Oskar’s investments collapsed, and he eventually went bankrupt.  A year later, he was stricken with severe encephalomeningitis, and spent 8 months in critical condition.  These events radically altered his personality, as he became a broken and depressed person.  In 1926 they separated, and never got back together.  It was not, however, until 1939 that Karen Horney legally divorced her husband (Kelman, 1971; Rubins, 1972, 1978).For Karen Horney’s career, the years in Berlin were important and productive.  She entered into psychoanalysis with Karl Abraham, and later she was also analyzed by Hanns Sachs for a brief time.  Abraham appointed her as an instructor in the Berlin Psychoanalytic Poliklinik in 1919, and brought her to the attention of Sigmund Freud (with high praise).  She came to know many of the candidates for psychoanalytic training, and also became friends with many of them, including Melanie Klein, Wilhelm Reich, and Erich Fromm.  She also had many friends outside psychoanalytic circles, including the existential theologian Paul Tillich and the neurologist Kurt Goldstein (who coined the term self-actualization).  The psychoanalytic scene in Berlin was active and dynamic, and Horney was very much in the middle of it all, never shy about expressing her own ideas and different opinions.  One such issue was that of training lay-analysts (psychologists, as opposed to psychiatrists).  She favored allowing the training for the purposes of research, but clearly favored medical training for those who would actually practice therapeutic psychoanalysis.  This eventually led to conflict between Horney and her close friend Erich Fromm.  Despite the many favorable circumstances in Berlin at the time, in the early 1930s Hitler was elected, and the Nazi regime began.  Although Horney was not Jewish, psychoanalysis was considered a “Jewish” science.  So, when Franz Alexander, who had been asked to come to Chicago to establish a new psychoanalytic training institute, asked her to be the Associate Director of the newly established Chicago Institute of Psychoanalysis, she accepted (Kelman, 1971; Rubins, 1972, 1978).  This dramatic turn in the events of her life did not, however, occur without a bit of chance.  Alexander had first asked Helene Deutsch, one of the first women to join Freud’s psychoanalytic group (see Sayers, 1991), but Deutsch was not interested at the time.  Thus, Horney was the second choice for the position that brought her to America for the rest of her life (Kelman, 1971; Rubins, 1972, 1978).Once in Chicago, however, her theoretical differences with Alexander became a clear source of disagreement.  Alexander was not willing, as Horney was, to discard significant elements of Freud’s original theories.  So, just 2 years later, in 1934, Horney moved to New York City and joined the New York Psychoanalytic Institute.  A number of her friends from Berlin had also come to New York, including Erich Fromm and Paul Tillich, and Wilhelm Reich also visited her there.  She soon met Harry Stack Sullivan and Clara Thompson, as they were establishing their new training institute in New York.  She also began teaching at the New School for Social Research, and the American Institute for Psychoanalysis.  Her private practice grew steadily, and Alvin Johnson, the president of the New School (as it is commonly known) introduced her to W. W. Norton, who established a well-known publishing house that produced all of Horney’s books.  Her first book was entitled The Neurotic Personality of Our Time (1937), which was followed by perhaps her two most radical books, New Ways in Psychoanalysis (1939) and Self-Analysis (1942).  Horney had pursued new techniques in psychoanalysis and self-analysis, in part, because of her dissatisfaction with her own results as both a patient and a psychoanalyst.  Later, she published Our Inner Conflicts (1945), Are You Considering Psychoanalysis (1946), and Neurosis and Human Growth: The Struggle Toward Self-Realization (1950).  After her death, Harold Kelman (who was both a friend and colleague) brought together a number of her early papers in Feminine Psychology (Kelman, 1967), and, as a special tribute, Douglas Ingram published the transcripts of her final lectures, presented during a class she taught in the fall of 1952 (Ingram, 1987).During the 1930s and 1940s, Horney’s personal life was a social whirlwind.  She entertained frequently, often cooking herself, and when her own home was in disarray she would arrange the party at a friend’s home.  She bought and sold vacation homes often, including one where Oskar Horney stayed for a time, and she traveled frequently.  She enjoyed playing cards, and wanted to win so much that she would sometimes cheat!  When caught, she would freely admit it, laugh, and say that her opponents should have stopped her sooner.  Sometimes she would even gather her friends together and loudly sing German songs, in memory of their homeland (Kelman, 1971; Rubins, 1972, 1978).At work, however, there was constant tension regarding theoretical and political issues in the psychoanalytic societies.  In 1941, the New York Psychoanalytic Institute voted to disqualify Horney as a training analyst, due to her seemingly radical ideas on psychoanalytic techniques.  Half the society did not vote, however, and they soon left to form a new institute.  Immediately following the vote, Horney walked out, and a group of analysts led by Clara Thompson followed her.  The very same month, twenty analysts joined Horney in forming the Association for the Advancement of Psychoanalysis, and Horney was asked to become the Dean of their soon to be established American Institute for Psychoanalysis.  When Thompson suggested that Sullivan be granted honorary membership, and Horney recommended the same for Fromm, Fromm refused because he was not going to be recognized as a clinical psychoanalyst.  The resulting controversy led to a committee review, which voted against Fromm’s membership.  Among others, Fromm, Thompson, and Sullivan left the society.  There were other political battles as well, and Horney was routinely torn between her professional beliefs, her need to control the direction of the society and institute, and her personal friendships with the individuals involved.  Through it all, although she held strong beliefs (such as opposing therapeutic psychoanalysis by lay-analysts like Fromm), she nonetheless encouraged challenging the original theories developed by Freud, as well as her own theories:I recall being impressed by her response at my first meeting with her, when I indicated my own curiosity and bent for research.  She had warmly hoped I would continue this way, since her views needed further work and clarification.  Indeed, during an interview in 1952, she stated that she knew her ideas would be changed, if not by herself by someone else. (pg. 37; Rubins, 1972)By 1950, Horney seemed to be feeling lonely and isolated.  Perhaps the political and theoretical battles had taken their toll, perhaps it was her strained relationships with her daughters (they were never really close), or perhaps it was the beginning of the cancer that would eventually take her life.  Although Horney would not consult with her physician about the abdominal pains she was experiencing (thus she did not know that she had cancer), she did begin to develop strong spiritual interests.  She occasionally attended Tillich’s sermons at St. John the Divine Church, though she seemed more interested in the philosophical and ethical aspects of religion than the spiritual aspects.  She kept a copy of Aldous Huxley’s The Perennial Philosophy (1945/2004) by her bedside for over a year, reading daily on Huxley’s interpretations of Eastern and Western mystics.  A few years earlier she had met D. T. Suzuki, and she became particularly interested in Zen.  She was especially impressed by a book he recommended entitled Zen in the Art of Archery (Herrigel, 1953; based on an article he wrote in 1936).  In 1951, Suzuki led Horney on a trip to Japan, where she visited a number of Zen temples and had lengthy discussions with Zen monks.  Although she seemed more interested in the practical aspects of being a student of Zen, she nonetheless endeavored to put Zen principles into a context she could understand (such as equating enlightenment with self-realization; Rubins, 1972, 1978).  Late in 1952, her cancer became so advanced that she finally sought medical care.  However, it was too late.  On December 4, 1952, she died peacefully, surrounded by daughters.Placing Horney in Context:  Culture and the Female PsycheKaren Horney’s career intersected many areas of psychology, relevant both to the past and to the future.  One of the first women trained in psychoanalysis, she was the first to challenge Freud’s views on women.  She did not, however, attempt to reject his influence, but rather, felt that she honored him by building upon his achievements.  The most significant change that she felt needed to be made was a shift away from the biological/medical model of Freud to one in which cultural factors were at least as important.  Indeed, she challenged Freud’s fundamental belief that anxiety follows biological impulses, and instead suggested that our behaviors adapt themselves to a fundamental anxiety associated with the simple desire for survival and to cultural determinants of abnormal, anxiety-provoking situations.Horney was also significant in the development of psychodynamic theory and psychoanalysis in America.  She helped to establish psychoanalytic societies and training institutes in Chicago and New York.  She was a friend and colleague to many influential psychoanalysts, including Harry Stack Sullivan and Erich Fromm.  She encouraged cross-cultural research and practice through her own example, not only citing the work of anthropologists and sociologists, but also through her personal interest and support for the study of Zen Buddhism.Although Horney herself abandoned the study of feminine psychology, suggesting instead that it represented the cultural effect of women being an oppressed minority group, her subsequent emphasis on the importance of relationships and interpersonal psychodynamic processes laid the foundation for later theories on the psychology of women (such as the relational-cultural model).  Thus, her influence is still being felt quite strongly today.Horney’s Shifting Perspectives on Psychodynamic TheoryHorney did not establish a specific theory of personality.  Rather, her career proceeded through a series of stages in which she addressed the issues that were of particular concern to her at the time.  Accordingly, her theories can be grouped into three stages:  feminine psychology, culture and disturbed human relationships, and finally, the mature theory in which she focused on the distinction between interpersonal and intrapsychic defenses (Paris, 1994).Feminine PsychologyHorney was neither the first, nor the only, significant woman in the early days of psychodynamic theory and psychoanalysis.  However, women such as Helene Deutsch, Marie Bonaparte, Anna Freud, and Melanie Klein remained faithful to Freud’s basic theories.  In contrast, Horney directly challenged Freud’s theories, and offered her own alternatives.  In doing so, she offered a very different perspective on the psychology of women and personality development in girls and women.  Her papers have been collected and published in Feminine Psychology by her friend and colleague Harold Kelman (1967), and an excellent overview of their content can be found in the biography written by Rubins (1978).In her first two papers, On the Genesis of the Castration Complex in Women (Horney, 1923/1967) and The Flight from Womanhood (Horney, 1926/1967), Horney challenged the Freudian perspective on the psychological development of females.  Although she acknowledged Freud’s pioneering theories, even as they applied to women, she believed that they suffered from a male perspective, and that the men who originally offered these theories simply did not understand the feminine perspective.  Horney agreed that girls develop penis envy, but not that it is the only dynamic force influencing development during the phallic stage.  Girls envy the ability of boys to urinate standing up, the fact that boys can see their genitals, and the relative ease with which boys can satisfy their desire for masturbation.  More important for girls than penis envy, however, was the fear and anxiety young girls experience with regard to vaginal injury were they to actually have intercourse with their fathers (which, Horney agreed, they may fantasize).  Thus, they experience a unique dynamic force called female genital anxiety.  Another element of the castration complex in women, according to Horney, was the consequence of castration fantasies that she called wounded womanhood (incorporating the belief that the girl had been castrated).Far more important than these basic processes, however, was the male bias inherent in society and culture.  The very name phallic stage implies that only someone with a phallus (penis) can achieve sexual satisfaction and healthy personality development.  Girls are repeatedly made to feel inferior to boys, feminine values are considered inferior to masculine values, even motherhood is considered a burden for women to bear (according to the Bible, the pain of childbirth is a curse from God!).  In addition, male-dominated societies do not provide women with adequate outlets for their creative drives.  As a result, many women develop a masculinity complex, involving feelings of revenge against men and the rejection of their own feminine traits.  Thus, it may be true that women are more likely to suffer from anxiety and other psychological disorders, but this is not due to an inherent inferiority as proposed by Freud.  Rather, women find it difficult in a patriarchal society to fulfill their personal development in accordance with their individual personality (unless they naturally happen to fit into society’s expectations).Perhaps the most curious aspect of these early studies was the fact that Horney turned the tables on Freud and his concept of penis envy.  The female’s biological role in childbirth is vastly superior (if that is a proper term) to that of the male.  Horney noted that many boys express an intense envy of pregnancy and motherhood.  If this so-called womb envy is the male counterpart of penis envy, which is the greater problem?  Horney suggests that the apparently greater need of men to depreciate women is a reflection of their unconscious feelings of inferiority, due to the very limited role they play in childbirth and the raising of children (particularly breast-feeding infants, which they cannot do).  In addition, the powerful creative drives and excessive ambition that are characteristic of many men can be viewed, according to Horney, as overcompensation for their limited role in parenting.  Thus, as wonderful and intimate as motherhood may be, it can be a burden in the sense that the men who dominate society have turned it against women.  This is, of course, an illogical state of affairs, since the children being born and raised by women are also the children of the very men who then feel inferior and psychologically threatened.In a later paper, Horney (1932/1967) carried these ideas a step further.  She suggested that, during the Oedipus stage, boys naturally judge the size of their penis as inadequate sexually with regard to their mother.  They dread this inadequacy, which leads to anxiety and fear of rejection.  This proves to be quite frustrating, and in accordance with the frustration-aggression hypothesis, the boy becomes angry and aggressive toward his mother.  For men who are unable to overcome this issue, their adult sexual life becomes an ongoing effort to conquer and possess as many women as possible (a narcissistic overcompensation for their feelings of inadequacy).  Unfortunately, according to Horney, these men become very upset with any woman who then expects a long-term or meaningful relationship, since that would require him to then prove his manhood in other, non-sexual ways.For women, one of the most significant problems that results from these development processes is a desperate need to be in a relationship with a man, which Horney addressed in two of her last papers on feminine psychology:  The Overvaluation of Love (1934/1967) and The Neurotic Need for Love (1937/1967).  She recognized in many of her patients an obsession with having a relationship with a man, so much so that all other aspects of life seem unimportant.  While others had considered this an inherent characteristic of women, Horney insisted that characteristics such as this overvaluation of love always include a significant portion of tradition and culture.  Thus, it is not an inherent need in women, but one that has accompanied the patriarchal society’s demeaning of women, leading to low self-esteem that can only be overcome within society by becoming a wife and mother.  Indeed, Horney found that many women suffer an intense fear of not being normal.  Unfortunately, as noted above, the men these women are seeking relationships with are themselves seeking to avoid long-term relationships (due to their own insecurities).  This results in an intense and destructive attitude of rivalry between women (at least, those women caught up in this neurotic need for love).  When a woman loses a man to another woman, which may happen again and again, the situation can lead to depression, permanent feelings of insecurity with regard to feminine self-esteem, and profound anger toward other women.  If these feelings are repressed, and remain primarily unconscious, the effect is that the woman searches within her own personality for answers to her failure to maintain the coveted relationship with a man.  She may feel shame, believe that she is ugly, or imagine that she has some physical defect.  Horney described the potential intensity of these feelings as “self-tormenting.”In 1935, just a few years after coming to America, Horney rather abruptly stopped studying the psychology of women (though her last paper on the subject was not published until 1937).  Bernard Paris found the transcript of a talk that Horney had delivered that year to the National Federation of Professional and Business Women’s Clubs, which provided her reasoning for this change in her professional direction (see Paris, 1994).  First, Horney suggested that women should be suspicious of any general interest in feminine psychology, since it usually represents an effort by men to keep women in their subservient position.  In order to avoid competition, men praise the values of being a loving wife and mother.  When women accept these same values, they themselves begin to demean any other pursuits in life.  They become a teacher because they consider themselves unattractive to men, or they go into business because they aren’t feminine and lack sex appeal (Horney, cited in Paris, 1994).  The emphasis on attracting men and having children leads to a “cult of beauty and charm,” and the overvaluation of love.  The consequence of this tragic situation is that as women become mature, they become more anxious due to their fear of displeasing men:…The young woman feels a temporary security because of her ability to attract men, but mature women can hardly hope to escape being devalued even in their own eyes.  And this feeling of inferiority robs them of the strength for action which rightly belongs to maturity.Inferiority feelings are the most common evil of our time and our culture.  To be sure we do not die of them, but I think they are nevertheless more disastrous to happiness and progress than cancer or tuberculosis. (pg. 236; Horney cited in Paris, 1994)The key to the preceding quote is Horney’s reference to culture.  Having been in America for a few years at this point, she was already questioning the difference between the greater opportunities for women in America than in Europe (though the difference was merely relative).  She also emphasized that when women are demeaned by society, this had negative consequences on men and children.  Thus, she wanted to break away from any perspective that led to challenges between men and women:…First of all we need to understand that there are no unalterable qualities of inferiority of our sex due to laws of God or of nature.  Our limitations are, for the greater part, culturally and socially conditioned.  Men who have lived under the same conditions for a long time have developed similar attitudes and shortcomings.Once and for all we should stop bothering about what is feminine and what is not.  Such concerns only undermine our energies…In the meantime what we can do is to work together for the full development of the human personalities of all for the sake of general welfare. (pg. 238; Horney cited in Paris, 1994)In her final paper on feminine psychology, Horney (1937/1967) concludes her discussion of the neurotic need for love with a general discussion of the relationship between anxiety and the need for love.  Of course, this is true for both boys and girls.  This conclusion provided a clear transition from Horney’s study of the psychology of women to her more general perspectives on human development, beginning with the child’s need for security and the anxiety that arises when that security seems threatened.Discussion Question:  After a number of years studying feminine psychology, Horney came to believe that women are no different than any other minority group, and she began to pursue different directions in her career.  Are the problems faced by women different than other minority groups?  If so, how are they different?Anxiety and CultureIn the introduction to The Neurotic Personality of Our Time, Horney (1937) makes three important points.  First, she acknowledged that neuroses have their roots in childhood experiences, but she also considered the experiences of adulthood to be equally important.  Second, she believed that neuroses can only develop within a cultural context.  They may stem from individual experience, but their form and expression are intimately tied to one’s cultural setting.  And finally, she emphasized that she was not rejecting Freud’s basic theory.  Though she disagreed with many of his ideas, she considered it an honor to build upon the foundation of his “gigantic achievements.”  To do so, she wrote, helps to avoid the danger of stagnation.  If any more evidence than her word was necessary to demonstrate her loyalty to Freud, in this introduction we also find mention of Alfred Adler.  Although Horney acknowledges some similarities with Adler’s perspective, she insists that her ideas are grounded in Freudian theory, and she describes Adler’s work as having become sterile and one-sided.Horney believed that anxiety was a natural state of all living things, something the German philosophers had called Angst der Kreatur (anxiety of the creature), a feeling that one is helpless against such forces as illness, old age, and death.  We first experience this anxiety as infants, and it remains with us throughout life.  It does not, however, lead to neurotic anxiety.  But if a child is not cared for, if their anxiety is not alleviated by the protection of their parents, the child may develop basic anxiety:The condition that is fostered…is an insidiously increasing, all-pervading feeling of being lonely and helpless in a hostile world…This attitude as such does not constitute a neurosis but it is the nutritive soil out of which a definite neurosis may develop at any time. (pg. 89; Horney, 1937)Thus, in contrast to Freud’s belief that anxiety followed the threat of id impulses breaking free of the unconscious mind, Horney places anxiety before behavior.  The child, through interactions with other people (particularly the parents), strives to alleviate its anxiety.  If the child does not find support, then basic anxiety develops, and neurotic disorders become a distinct possibility.  From that point forward, the child’s drives and impulses are motivated by anxiety, rather than being the cause of anxiety as proposed by Freud.  Basic anxiety is considered basic for two reasons, one of which is that it is the source of neuroses.  The other reason is that it arises out of early, but disturbed, relationships with the parents.  This leads to feelings of hostility toward the parents, and Horney considered there to be a very close connection between anxiety and hostility.  And yet, the child remains dependent on the parents, so it must not exhibit that hostility.  This creates a vicious circle in which more anxiety is experienced, followed by more hostility, etc.  Unresolved, these psychological processes leave the child feeling not only basic anxiety, but also basic hostility (Horney, 1937; May, 1977).  In order to deal with this basic anxiety and basic hostility, Horney proposed both interpersonal and intrapsychic strategies of defense (which we will examine in the next two sections).  First, however, let’s take a brief, closer look at Horney’s views on culture and anxiety.A neurotic individual, simply put, is someone whose anxiety levels and behavior are significantly different than normal.  What is normal, of course, can only be defined within a cultural context.  Horney cited a number of famous anthropologists and sociologists to support this claim, including Margaret Mead and Ruth Benedict.  She cites H. Scudder Mekeel’s somewhat famous example of Native Americans having high regard for individuals who have visions and hallucinations, since those visions are considered to be special gifts, indeed blessings, from the spirits.  This is in sharp contrast to the standard Western view, which considers hallucinations to be a symptom of psychosis.  And yet, Native Americans are not fundamentally different than Westerners.  Only one year after Horney’s book was published, Mekeel led Erik Erikson on the first of Erikson’s studies of Native American development, which led Erikson to conclude that his stages of psychosocial crisis were valid, since they seemed to apply to Europeans, European-Americans, and Native Americans.  After citing many such examples, from simple matters such as preferred foods to complex matters such as attitudes toward murder, Horney concluded that every aspect of human life, including personality, was intimately tied to cultural factors:It is no longer valid to suppose that a new psychological finding reveals a universal trend inherent in human nature…This in turn means that if we know the cultural conditions under which we live we have a good chance of gaining a much deeper understanding of the special character of normal feelings and attitudes. (pg. 19; Horney, 1937)This emphasis on culture, however, should not be confused with the importance of individuality.  Anxieties and neurotic symptoms exist within individuals, and present themselves within personal relationships.  Culture, once again, merely guides the nature or form of those anxieties.  In Western culture, we are driven primarily by economic and individual competition.  Thus, other people are seen as competitors, or rivals.  For one person to gain something, another must lose.  As a result, according to Horney, there is a diffuse hostile tension pervading all of our relationships.  For those who cannot resolve this tension, most likely due to having experienced the culturally determined anxieties in exaggerated form during a dysfunctional childhood, they become neurotic.  Accordingly, Horney described the neurotic individual as “a stepchild of our culture” (Horney, 1937)Interpersonal Strategies of DefenseHorney considered inner conflicts, and the personality disturbances they cause, to be the source of all psychological illness.  In other words, calm, well-balanced individuals do not suffer psychological disorders (consider the stress-diathesis model of abnormal psychology).  Although Freud approached this concept in his work, it was those who followed him, such as Franz Alexander, Otto Rank, Wilhelm Reich, and Harald Schultz-Nencke, who defined it more clearly.  Still, Horney felt they all failed to understand the precise nature and dynamics of character structure, because they did not take into account the cultural influences.  It was only during her own work on feminine psychology that Horney came to the full understanding of these psychodynamic processes (at least, in her own view; Horney, 1945).At the core of these conflicts is a basic conflict, which Freud described as being between one’s desire for immediate and total satisfaction (the id) and the forbidding environment, such as the parents and society (the superego).  Horney generally agreed with Freud on this concept, but she did not consider the basic conflict to be basic.  Rather, she considered it an essential aspect of only the neurotic personality.  Thus, it is a basic conflict in the neurotic individual, one which expresses itself in the person’s predominant style of relating to others.  The three general attitudes that arise as neurotic attempts to solve conflict are known as moving toward people, moving against people, and moving away from people (Horney, 1945).  Although they provide a way for neurotics to attempt solutions in their disturbed interpersonal relationships, they achieve only an artificial balance, which creates new conflicts.  These new conflicts create greater hostility, anxiety, and alienation, thus continuing a vicious circle, which Horney believed could be broken by psychoanalysis.Psychoanalysis is important for understanding neurotic individuals in part because they build a defensive structure around their basic conflict.  Their behavior, according to Horney, reflects more of their efforts to solve conflicts, rather than the basic conflict itself.  Thus, the basic conflict becomes so deeply embedded in the personality, that it can never be seen in its pure form.  Nonetheless, when one of the basic character attitudes becomes predominant, we can observe characteristic behaviors that reflect the neurotic failure to resolve one’s inner conflicts.Moving toward people, also known as the compliant personality, incorporates needs for affection and approval, and a special need for a partner who will fulfill all of one’s expectations of life.  These needs are characteristic of neurotic trends:  they are compulsive, indiscriminate, and they generate anxiety when they are frustrated.  In addition, they operate independently of one’s feelings toward or value of the person who is the object of those needs (Horney, 1945).  In order to ensure the continued support of others, the compliant individual will do almost anything to maintain relationships, but they give themselves over so completely that they may enjoy nothing for themselves.  They begin to feel weak and helpless, and they subordinate themselves to others, thinking that everyone is smarter, more attractive, and more worthwhile than they are.  They rate themselves by the opinions of others, so much so that any rejection can be catastrophic.  Love becomes the most compulsive desire, but their lack of self-esteem makes true love difficult.  Accordingly, sexual relations become a substitute for love, as well as the “evidence” that they are loved and desired.Just as the compliant type clings to the belief that people are “nice,” and is continually baffled by evidence to the contrary, so the aggressive type takes it for granted that everyone is hostile, and refuses to admit that they are not.  To him life is a struggle of all against all, and the devil take the hindmost. (pg. 63; Horney, 1945)As noted in the preceding quote, those who move against people, the aggressive personality, are driven by a need to control others.  They view the world in a Darwinian sense, a world dominated by survival of the fittest, where the strong annihilate the weak.  The aggressive person may seem polite and fair-minded, but it is mostly a front, put up in order to facilitate their own goals.  They may be openly aggressive, or they may choose to manipulate others indirectly, sometimes preferring to be the power behind the throne.  Love, which is such a desperate need for the compliant person, is of little consequence for the aggressive person.  They may very well be “in love,” and they may marry, but they are more concerned in what they can get out of the relationship.  They tend to choose mates for their attractiveness, prestige, or wealth.  What is most important is how their mate can enhance their own social position.  They are keen competitors, looking for any evidence of weakness or ambition in others.  Unfortunately, they also tend to suppress emotion in their lives, making it difficult, if not impossible, to enjoy life.Those who move away from people, the detached personality, are not merely seeking meaningful solitude.  Instead, they are driven to avoid other people because of the unbearable strain of associating with others.  In addition, they are estranged from themselves, they do not know who they are, or what they love, desire, value, or believe.  Horney described them as zombies, able to work and function like living people, but there is no life in them.  A crucial element appears to be their desire to put emotional distance between themselves and others.  They become very self-sufficient and private.  Since these individuals seek negative goals, not to be involved, not to need help, not to be bothered, as opposed to having clear goals (needing a loving partner or needing to control others) their behavior is more subject to variability, but the focus remains on being detached from others in order to avoid facing the conflicts within their psyche (Horney, 1945).Each of these three character attitudes has within it some value.  It is important and healthy to maintain relationships with others (moving toward), ambition and a drive to excel have definite benefits in many cultures (moving against), and peaceful solitude, a chance to get away from it all, can be very refreshing (moving away).  The healthy individual is likely able to make use of each of these solutions in the appropriate situations.  When someone needs our help, we reach out to them.  If someone tries to take advantage of us, we stand up for ourselves.  When the daily hassles of life wear us down, we retreat into solitude for a short time, maybe exercising, going to a movie, or listening to our favorite music.  As Horney attempted to make very clear, the neurotic individual is marked by a compulsion to use one style of relating to others, and they do so to their own detriment.Connections Across Cultures:  Cultural Differences inInterpersonal Relationship StylesAs Horney repeatedly pointed out, neurotic behavior can only be viewed as such within a cultural context.  Thus, in the competitive and individualistic Western world, our cultural tendencies are likely to favor moving against and moving away from others.  The same is not true in many other cultures.Relationships can exist in two basic styles:  exchange or communal relationships.  Exchange relationships are based on the expectation of some return on one’s investment in the relationship.  Communal relationships, in contrast, occur when one person feels responsible for the well-being of the other person(s).  In African and African-American cultures we are much more likely to find communal relationships, and interpersonal relationships are considered to be a core value amongst people of African descent (Belgrave & Allison, 2006).  While there may be a tendency in Western culture to consider this dependence on others as somehow “weak,” it provides a source of emotional attachment, need fulfillment, and the influence and involvement of people in each other’s activities and lives.Cultural differences also come into play in love and marriage.  In America, passionate love tends to be favored, whereas in China companionate love is favored.  African cultures seem to fall somewhere in between (Belgrave & Allison, 2006).  When considering the divorce rate in America, as compared to many other countries, it has been suggested that Americans marry the person they love, whereas people in many other cultures love the person they marry.  In a study involving people from India, Pakistan, Thailand, Mexico, Brazil, Japan, Hong Kong, the Philippines, Australia, England, and the United States, it was found that individualistic cultures placed greater importance on the role of love in choosing to get married, and also on the loss of love as sufficient justification for divorce.  For intercultural marriages, these differences are a significant, though not insurmountable, source of conflict (Matsumoto & Juang, 2004).  Attempting to maintain awareness of cultural differences when relationship conflicts occur, rather than attributing the conflict to the personality of the other person, can be an important first step in resolving intercultural conflict.  However, it must also be remembered that different cultures acknowledge and tolerate conflict to different extents (Brislin, 2000; Matsumoto, 1997; Okun, Fried, & Okun, 1999; for a brief discussion of intergroup dialogue and conflict resolution options, see Miller & Garran, 2008).These cultural differences are so fundamental, that even at the level of considering basic intelligence we see the effects of these contrasting perspectives.  In a study on the Kiganda culture (within the country of Uganda, in Africa), Wober (1974) found that they consider intelligence to be more externally directed than we do, and they view successful social climbing and social interaction as evidence of intelligent behavior.  This matches the attitude amongst Mediterranean cultures that notable people will be devoted to a life of public service (in contrast, the word “idiot” is derived from a Greek word meaning a private man).Thus, moving toward others would be favored much more in other cultures than it might be in the Western world.  Consequently, a significant attitude and the behavior of moving toward others would be less likely to be viewed as neurotic.  Such issues are, of course, very important as we interact with people of other cultures, as we may consider their behavior to be odd according to our standards.  Naturally, they may be thinking the same thing about us.  What is probably most important is that we learn about and experience other cultures, so that differences in customs and behavior are not surprising when they occur.There are two other mechanisms that Horney suggested are used by people in their attempts to resolve inner conflict:  the idealized image, and externalization (Horney, 1945).  The idealized image is a creation of what the person believes themselves to be, or what they feel they can or ought to be.  It is always flattering, and quite removed from reality.  The individual may see themselves as beautiful, powerful, saintly, or a genius.  Consequently, they become quite arrogant.  The more unrealistic their view is, the more compulsive their need for affirmation and recognition.  Since they need no confirmation of what they know to be true, they are particularly sensitive when questioned about their false claims!  The idealized image is not to be confused with authentic ideals.  Ideals are goals, they have a dynamic quality, they arouse incentive to achieve those goals, and they are important for personal growth and development.  Having genuine ideals tends to result in humility.  The idealized image, in contrast, is static, and it hinders growth by denying or condemning one’s shortcomings.The idealized image can provide a temporary refuge from the basic conflict, but when the tension between the actual self and the idealized image becomes unbearable, there is nothing within the self to fall back on.  Consequently, an extreme attempt at a solution is to run away from the self entirely.  Externalization is the tendency to experience one’s own psychodynamic processes as having occurred outside oneself, and then blaming others for one’s own problems.  Such individuals become dependent on others, because they become preoccupied with changing, reforming, punishing, or impressing those individuals who are responsible for their own well-being.  A particularly unfortunate consequence of externalization is a feeling Horney described as a “gnawing sense of emptiness and shallowness” (pg. 117; Horney, 1945).  However, rather than allowing themselves to feel the emotion, they might experience it as an empty feeling in the stomach, and attempt to satisfy themselves by, for example, overeating.  Overall, the self-contempt they feel is externalized in two basic ways:  either despising others, or feeling that others despise them.  Either way, it is easy to see how damaged the individual’s personal relationships would become.  Horney described externalization as a process of self-elimination, which aggravates the very process with set it in motion:  the conflict between the person and their environment.Discussion Question:  Horney described three basic attitudes regarding other people:  moving toward, moving against, or moving away from them.  Do you easily use all three styles of relating to others, or do you tend to rely on one more than the others?  Does this create problems in your relationships?Intrapsychic Strategies of DefenseIn Neurosis and Human Growth, Horney (1950) addressed the psychodynamic struggle toward self-realization.  She described a series of psychological events that occur in the development of a neurotic personality, and how they interfere with the healthy psychological growth of the real self.  Indeed, neurotic symptoms arise out of the conflict between the real self, our deep source of growth, and the idealized image.  She began this book with a simple statement as to why she focused so much of her work on neurotic personalities:The neurotic process is a special form of human development, and – because of the waste of constructive energies which it involves – is a particularly unfortunate one. (pg. 13; Horney, 1950)Horney believed in an innate potentiality within all people, which she referred to as growth toward self-realization.  The real self underlies this tendency toward self-realization, but it can be diverted by the development of basic anxiety.  In order to overcome basic anxiety, the child adopts one of the strategies described above, attempting to solve its conflicts by moving toward, against, or away from others.  Under adverse conditions, the child adopts one of these strategies in a rigid and extreme fashion, and begins the neurotic development.  And yet, the tendency toward self-realization remains deep within the psyche, demanding that the neurotic development seek some higher level.  Thus, the idealized image is formed, and a variety of intrapsychic processes begin an attempt to justify oneself based upon that idealized image.The establishment of the idealized image involves self-glorification, and it reflects a need to lift oneself above others.  The psychic energy associated with self-realization is shifted toward realization of the idealized image, establishing a general drive that Horney called the search for glory (Horney, 1950).  The search for glory includes several elements, which are manifested as drives or needs.  There is a need for perfection, which aims at the complete molding of the personality into the idealized self, and a drive for neurotic ambition, or striving for external success.  The most damaging element of the search for glory, however, is the drive toward vindictive triumph.  The aim of vindictive triumph is to put others to shame, or to defeat them, through one’s own success.  Horney considered this drive to be vindictive because its motivating source is the desire to take revenge for humiliations suffered in childhood (i.e., to pay others back for the circumstances that created basic anxiety).The elements of the search for glory are not necessarily bad.  Who wouldn’t want to be perfect, ambitious, and triumphant?  However, in their compulsive and neurotic form, Horney believed that people came to expect these elements, creating what she called the neurotic claims.  When simple desires or needs become claims, individual feel they have a right to those things, they feel they are entitled.  They fully expect to be satisfied in every way, and they also expect, indeed feel they are entitled, to never be criticized, doubted, or questioned (Horney, 1950).  These claims are not only made on other people, but also on institutions, such as the workplace or society as a whole.  The individual becomes highly egocentric, reminding others of a spoiled child, and they expect their needs to be satisfied without putting forth any effort of their own.  Obviously, it is highly unlikely that such a person’s needs are going to be fulfilled, creating a diffuse state of frustration and discontent, so all-encompassing that Horney suggested it can actually be viewed as a character trait in the neurotic individual.  From the therapist’s point of view, neurotic claims are particularly serious because they take the place of the patient’s actual personality growth.  In other words, the patient believes that merely wanting or intending to change is enough, and no effort is necessary.  Indeed, the claims themselves are the neurotic’s guarantee of future glory (Horney, 1950).While these neurotic claims and the feelings of entitlement that accompany them may seem to be just a personal problem, the fact is that many people make seriously flawed self-assessments of their abilities, attributes, and future behavior.  Indeed, the “average” person typically rates themselves as “above average” in many areas of their lives.  These flawed self-assessments come into play in many aspects of our lives, and can easily affect others (Dunning, Heath, & Suls, 2004; Williams, 2004).  For example, the United States spends more of its gross domestic product on health care than any other major industrialized country, and yet many people seriously underestimate the consequences of a wide range of unhealthy behaviors, such as smoking, drinking alcohol, overeating to the point of obesity, and avoiding exercise.  The poor physical health of many Americans has become a regular topic in the mainstream media, as it threatens both individual lives (and, consequently, the family and friends of those who die) and our ability to fund healthcare for those who are poor or aged.  In education, students dramatically overestimate the extent to which they have learned, limiting the likelihood that they will take fuller advantage of their education.  And in business, the consequences can be severe for many employees, and therefore their families, when a President or CEO is so over-confident that they make poor decisions that bankrupt the company.  As suggested above, these problems are common, not just confined to those who are neurotic.  Thus, the problem of overconfidence, whether the result of an unreasonable trend in society to ensure everyone’s self-esteem or the result of neurotic claims, as well as the extent to which individuals are able to know themselves and, therefore, function in the real world, is critical to everyone (Dunning, Heath, & Suls, 2004; Williams, 2004).Whereas the neurotic claims are directed outward, the individual then turns their attention back into the self.  They begin to tell themselves (though this may unconscious) to forget about the worthless creature they believe they are, and start behaving as they should.  In order to match up with the idealized image, they should be honest, generous, and just, they should be able to endure any misfortune, they should be the perfect friend and lover, they should like everyone, they should never feel hurt, they should never be attached to anyone or anything, they should know, understand, and foresee everything, they should be able to overcome any difficulty, etc.  Obviously, no one can be everything at all times.  Horney described this tragic state as the tyranny of the should.  Since it is virtually impossible for anyone to maintain such discipline in their life, rather than developing real self-confidence, the neurotic individual develops a questionable alternative:  neurotic pride.  However, the pride is not in who the individual is, but rather in who the individual believes they should be (Horney, 1950).Sooner or later, it is inevitable that the neurotic individual will have their pride hurt in real life.  When this happens, the other side of neurotic pride comes out:  self-hate.  Indeed, Horney believed that pride and self-hate are a single entity, which she called the pride system.  As the neurotic individual becomes more aware of their failure to live up to the idealized self, they develop self-hate and self-contempt.  According to Horney, the battle lines are now drawn between the pride system and the real self.  It is not the real self that is hated, however, but the emerging constructive forces of the real self (the actual aim of psychotherapy!).  This conflict, between the pride system and the constructive forces for change inherent in the real self, are so profound, that Horney named it the central inner conflict!  In her earlier writings, Horney used the term neurotic conflict to refer to conflicts between incompatible compulsive drives.  The central inner conflict is unique, in that it sets up a conflict between a neurotic drive (the pride system) and a healthy drive (the trend toward self-realization).  Horney believed that individuals who have arrived at this psychological state of affairs were indeed in a difficult situation:Surveying self-hate and its ravaging force, we cannot help but see in it a great tragedy, perhaps the greatest tragedy of the human mind.  Man in reaching out for the Infinite and Absolute also starts destroying himself.  When he makes a pact with the devil, who promises him glory, he has to go to hell – to the hell within himself. (pg. 154; Horney, 1950).Discussion Question:  Horney defined the central inner conflict as the battle between the constructive forces for change inherent in the real self and the self-hate that arises out of the pride system.  Have you ever found yourself giving up on something important because you feel incapable, unworthy, or overly self-critical?  If you have ever been aware of these feelings at the time they occurred, what, if anything, did you do about them?Horney’s Challenge for PsychoanalysisOne of the actions that made Horney most controversial was her willingness to challenge how psychoanalysis should be conducted with patients.  In New Ways in Psychoanalysis (Horney, 1939), Horney made it very clear why she thought that psychoanalysis needed to be questioned:My desire to make a critical re-evaluation of psychoanalytical theories had its origin in a dissatisfaction with therapeutic results. (pg. 7; Horney, 1939)Simply put, she had asked many leading psychoanalysts questions about problems in treating her patients, and none of them could offer meaningful answers (at least, they had no meaning for Horney).  In addition, a few of them, such as Wilhelm Reich, encouraged her to question orthodox psychoanalytic theory.  As always, Horney did not see this as a rejection of Freud.  Indeed, she felt that as she pursued new ideas, she found stronger reasons to admire the foundation that Freud had established.  More importantly, she was upset that those who criticized psychoanalysis often simply ignored it, rather than looking more deeply into the valuable insights she believed it still had to offer for any therapist.  As before, she saved her most serious critiques for the study of feminine psychology, though she still considered psychoanalysis with an emphasis on culture to be a valid therapeutic approach:The American woman is different from the German woman; both are different from certain Pueblo Indian women.  The New York society woman is different from the farmer’s wife in Idaho.  The way specific cultural conditions engender specific qualities and faculties, in women as in men – this is what we may hope to understand. (pg. 119; Horney, 1939)In her second book on therapy, Horney proposed something quite radical:  the possibility of Self-Analysis (Horney, 1942).  She considered self-analysis important for two main reasons.  First, psychoanalysis was an important means of personal development, though not the only means.  In this assertion, she was both emphasizing the value of psychoanalysis for many people, while at the same time saying that it wasn’t so important that it had to conducted in the orthodox manner by an extensively trained psychoanalyst, since there are many paths to self-development (e.g., good friends and a meaningful career).  Second, even if many people sought traditional psychoanalysis, there simply aren’t enough psychoanalysts to go around.  So, Horney provided a book to help those willing to pursue their own self-analysis, even if they do so only occasionally (which she believed could be quite effective for specific issues).  She did not suggest that self-analysis was by any means easy, but more important was the realization that it was possible.  With regard to the possible criticism that self-analysts might not finish the job, that they might not delve into the darkest and most repressed areas of their psyche, she simply suggested that no analysis is ever complete.  What matters more than being successful is the desire to continue (Horney, 1942).When the Association for the Advancement of Psychoanalysis was established, an important part of their mission was community education.  One of the courses was entitled Are You Considering Psychoanalysis?  This course was so popular, that the instructors decided to publish a book by the same name, and Horney was chosen the editor-in-chief (Horney, 1946).  The chapters present very practical topics, such as:  What Are Your Doubts About Psychoanalysis? (Kelman, 1946); What Do You Do in Analysis? (Kilpatrick, 1946); and How Does Analysis Help? (Ivimey, 1946).  Perhaps reflecting her own concerns about the ability of psychoanalysis to “cure” a person’s problems, Horney entitled the final chapter, which she wrote herself:  How Do You Progress After Analysis?  She begins the chapter by addressing the concern that many of her patients had:  why would a person need more progress after psychoanalysis?  Isn’t psychoanalysis supposed to resolve all of a person’s psychological problems?  As noted above, however, Horney felt that no analysis is ever complete.  But this time the reasoning is not based on questioning the effectiveness of psychoanalysis itself.  Rather, it is based on the potential for human growth, a potential that is boundless:Your growth as a human being, however, is a process that can and should go on as long as you live…analytical therapy merely sets this process in motion… (pg. 236; Horney, 1946)Discussion Question:  Have you ever tried self-analysis, in either a formal or an informal way?  If yes, were your efforts based on any personal experience or knowledge, and did it prove to be helpful?Brief Biography of Erich FrommErich Fromm was a colleague and long-time friend of Horney.  He became interested in psychoanalysis at the beginning of World War I, when he was amazed at how readily so many people seemed eager for war.  Unlike most other psychoanalysts, however, he earned a Ph.D., not an M.D.  This eventually proved to be a source of conflict between Fromm and Horney, as she believed that lay-analysts should not be allowed to conduct therapy.  Still, Fromm acknowledged Horney as influencing his career and sharing his own interests in culture and particularly in society itself (Evans, 1981a).  Fromm also considered himself as remaining especially true to the theories of Sigmund Freud, though some authors consider him to be more of a philosopher than a psychologist (Evans, 1981a; Lundin, 1979; see also Funk, 1982, 2000).Fromm was born on March 23, 1900, the only son of Orthodox Jewish parents, in Frankfurt, Germany.  He studied the Talmud and law, but eventually switched from the University of Frankfurt to the University of Heidelberg and changed his major to sociology and economics.  In 1922 he received his doctorate, and in 1924 he was psychoanalyzed by Frieda Reichmann.  He turned away from Orthodox Judaism, married Frieda Reichmann (whom he later divorced), and became active in the Berlin psychoanalytic community (where he completed his psychoanalytic training).  In 1933, Horney invited Fromm to guest lecture in Chicago.  A year later, he moved to New York.  There he collaborated with Horney, Harry Stack Sullivan (whom he also acknowledged as a significance influence on his thinking; see, e.g., Evans, 1981a and Fromm, 1941, 1955a), and Clara Thompson.  In 1940 he became a United States citizen, then in 1941 he published Escape from Freedom (Fromm, 1941) and began teaching at the New School (Funk, 1982, 2000).After his break with Horney (both personally and professionally), Fromm married his second wife and spent some time teaching at Yale University.  A few years later his wife died, Fromm soon married for the third time, and that marriage lasted until his death.  Shortly after his third marriage, Fromm moved to Mexico City, Mexico, where he lived for the next 24 years.  He joined the medical faculty at the National Autonomous University of Mexico, and co-founded a Mexican psychoanalytic society.  In 1956, he published his acclaimed book The Art of Loving (Fromm, 1956).  He taught a seminar with D. T. Suzuki, and their friendship led to the publication of Zen Buddhism & Psychoanalysis (Suzuki, Fromm, and De Martino, 1960).  He also conducted important cross-cultural studies in a Mexican peasant village, resulting in the publication of Social Character in a Mexican Village (Fromm & Maccoby, 1970),In 1966, Fromm suffered a heart attack and began spending more time back in Europe.  In 1974, he sold his home in Mexico and settled permanently in Switzerland (where he had been spending his summers).  After a series of three more heart attacks, Fromm died in 1980 (Funk, 1982, 2000).Placing Fromm in Context:  Individuality in Relation to SocietyErich Fromm was a colleague and close personal friend of Karen Horney for many years.  He shared her interest in the role of culture in personality, and was even more interested in the interactions between the individual and society as a whole.  Fromm viewed societies as forces that lead to alienation from a more natural, primitive way of life.  As a result, freedom and individuality actually create psychological problems, as we become disconnected from our immediate social groups (such as the family or local community).  This often leads to unfortunate consequences, such as seeking fellowship within a society at the expense of one’s regard for self and others, providing a framework within which dictatorships can develop (as individuals completely surrender their freedom).Fromm examined and combined many different interests in his career, including philosophy, economics, and psychology, and he felt that such a combination of interests was essential for the study of psychology to have real meaning.  In one of the longest projects of his life, he and a number of colleagues applied a unique form of “psychoanalysis” to an entire village in rural Mexico.  He then described how an understanding of social character can lead to an understanding of individual character, providing guidance for future considerations on planning social development during times of dramatic socioeconomic change.Our Relationship to SocietyFromm was a prolific writer, whose interests included psychoanalysis, economics, religion, ethics, culture, and societal systems.  He evaluated both Freud the man and Freud’s theories in Sigmund Freud’s Mission (Fromm, 1978) and Greatness and Limitations of Freud’s Thought (Fromm, 1980).  His religious works include such provocative titles as The Dogma of Christ (Fromm, 1955b) and You Shall Be as Gods (Fromm, 1966).  He addressed the person’s place within society in books such as The Sane Society (1955a) and The Revolution of Hope (1968).  And a collection of his works on gender psychology, Love, Sexuality, and Matriarchy, was edited by Rainer Funk (1977).  The unifying theme throughout Fromm’s writings is each person’s relationship to society, which he addressed most directly in Escape from Freedom (Fromm, 1941).Fromm interpreted Freud’s theories on the satisfaction of drives as necessarily involving other people, but for Freud those relationships are only a means to an end.  Although hunger, thirst, and sex may be common needs, Fromm suggested that the needs that lead to differences in people’s character, such as love and hatred, lusting for power or yearning to submit, or the enjoyment of sensuous pleasure as well as the fear of it, are all the result of social processes.  One’s very nature is a product of the interaction between the individual and their cultural setting.  We are the creation and achievement of human history, and at the same time we influence the course of that history and culture.  In modern times, particularly in the Western world, our pursuit of individuality has alienated us from others, from the very social structure that is inherent to our nature.  Consequently, our freedom has become a psychological problem, it has isolated us from the connections necessary for our survival and development (Fromm, 1941).  The danger with this situation, according to Fromm, is that when an entire society is suffering from feelings of isolation and disconnection with the natural order (from nature itself, in Fromm’s view), the members of that society may seek connection with a societal structure that destroys their freedom and, thus, integrates their self into the whole (albeit in a dysfunctional way).  The three ways in which individuals escape from freedom are authoritarianism, or giving oneself up to some authority in order to gain the strength that the individual lacks, destructiveness, in which the individual tries to destroy the object causing anxiety (e.g., society), and automaton conformity, in which the person renounces their individual integrity.  Fromm believed that these phenomena provided an explanation for the development of dictatorships, such as the rise of Fascism in Europe during the 1920s and 1930s.  For the leaders of these societies, these processes are such a deeply ingrained aspect of their character that Fromm actually described Adolf Hitler’s destructiveness as evidence of a necrophilous character (a necrophiliac is someone sexually attracted to the dead; Fromm, 1973).In order to approach a solution for this problem, Fromm pursued an overall integration of the person and society.  He believed that psychology cannot be divorced from philosophy, sociology, economics, or ethics.  The moral problem facing people in the modern world is their indifference to themselves.  Although democracy and individuality seem to offer freedom, it is only a promise of freedom.  When our insecurities and anxieties lead us to submit to some source of power, be it a political party, church, club, whatever, we surrender our personal power (Fromm, 1947).  Consequently, we become subject to the undue influence of others (and in extreme situations, to a Hitler or a Stalin).  The solution may be as simple as love, but Fromm suggests that love is by no means an easy task, and it is not simply a relationship between two people:…love is not a sentiment which can be easily indulged in by anyone, regardless of the level of maturity reached by him.  It [Fromm’s book] wants to convince the reader that all his attempts for love are bound to fail, unless he tries most actively to develop his total personality, so as to achieve a productive orientation; that satisfaction in individual love cannot be attained without the capacity to love one’s neighbor, without true humility, courage, faith and discipline. (pg. xxi; Fromm, 1956)An individual’s capacity for love is a reflection of the extent to which their culture encourages the development of the capacity for love as part of the character of each person.  Capitalist societies, according to Fromm, emphasize individual freedom and economic relations.  Thus, a capitalist society values economic gain (amassed wealth) over labor (the power of people).  And yet, such an economy needs large groups of people working together (the labor force).  As individuals become anxious in their pursuit of life, they become psychologically invested in the capitalist system, they surrender themselves to capitalism, and become the labor force that leads to the wealth of those who own the company.  Fromm believed this alienated us from ourselves, from others, and from nature (or, the natural order).  In order to regain our connection to others in a healthy way, we need to practice the art of love, love both for ourselves and for others.  Doing so requires discipline, concentration, and patience, personal strengths that are all taught in the practice of Zen.  Indeed, Fromm recommends one of Horney’s favorite books:  Zen in the Art of Archery (Herrigel, 1953).  We will examine the relationship between Zen and the approaches of Horney and Fromm to solving society’s problems in more detail in “Personality Theory in Real Life.”  But first, Fromm chose to examine whether the principles of psychoanalysis could be used to examine the relationship between individuals and society.  He and his colleagues addressed this question in a Mexican village, a study we will examine in the next section.Discussion Question:  Fromm believed that the freedom we have in modern, Western societies actually separates and alienates us from others, becoming a source of great anxiety.  Can you agree that freedom can become a problem?  Can you agree that people within an entire society could become so anxious that they support the rise of a dictator?Fromm’s Cross-Cultural Studies in MexicoFromm believed that in addition to individual’s having a certain character structure, there is also social character.  Social character is common to groups or classes within a society, and provides a framework within which psychic energy in general is transformed into the specific psychic energy of each person within the group.  From 1957 to 1963, Fromm, Michael Maccoby, and numerous colleagues interviewed every adult member of a Mexican village, and about half the children, with a focus on applying psychodynamic theory in order to understand the social character of the village and its role in determining the personality of each person.  The village was chosen as representative of many small villages (this village had approximately 800 residents) in Mexico that underwent substantial changes in socioeconomic structure following the Mexican revolution.  The primary, and most controversial, purpose of this study was to determine whether a society could be “psychoanalyzed” in order to understand the character of individual’s within that society.  Fromm & Maccoby also hoped that their study would provide information to help predict and plan social change during times of dramatic socioeconomic change, such as the transition from a non-democratic to a democratic society (Fromm & Maccoby, 1970).While it took an entire book for Fromm and Maccoby to report their results, a few key findings can be summarized.  First, although they began their study with a questionnaire that had been developed for a previous study, the level of interpretation needed for psychoanalytic theorizing required additional information.  This was obtained by also having the participants take the Rorschach inkblot test.  Second, the theory of social character, as an adaptation to the socioeconomic conditions of a society that serve to stabilize and maintain that society, was confirmed.  Of particular interest were those individuals whose character was typically viewed as deviant, because they seek change and opportunity.  When external socioeconomic conditions force changes upon a society, the previously “deviant” individuals are among those who flourish under this new opportunity for change.  In other words, their so-called deviance now becomes advantageous, and they lead others toward new adaptive changes in social character (though this may occur slowly for most members of the society).  In a manner similar to natural selection in evolution, Fromm and Maccoby referred to this type of change in a society as social selection.  Unfortunately, if the individuals leading these changes are dysfunctional or cruel individuals, such as the leaders of the fascist groups in Europe during the 1920s and 1930s, the consequences can be tragic.  It was for this very reason that Fromm sought to understand how people are drawn into groups following their alienation and anxiety due to changes in the course of society.Personality Theory in Real Life:  Feminine Psychology, Zen Mindfulness,Psychoanalysis, and Everyday RelationshipsThe ancient practice of mindfulness, which is associated with Buddhism but also has roots in other spiritual practices and religions, has become an important and fairly common psychotherapeutic technique (see, e.g., Germer, Siegel, & Fulton, 2005; Richards & Bergin, 2000; Sperry & Shafranske, 2005).  There are also some interesting connections between the practice of Buddhist mindfulness and those who established feminine psychology.  At the end of her life, Karen Horney went to Japan to study Zen Buddhism with the renowned Buddhist scholar D. T. Suzuki, and Janet Surrey, one of the founding members of the Stone Center (which will be introduced in the next chapter), has been practicing mindfulness and working to synthesize Buddhist practices with relational-cultural approaches to psychology for over 20 years (Surrey, 2005).  Surrey is also on the faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy, and teaches seminars on the use of mindfulness in conjunction with relational-cultural therapy (and I can personally attest to the wonderful job she does).Since Horney became interested in Zen near the end of her life, she wrote very little about it.  Indeed, most of what is recorded is in the book Final Lectures (Ingram, 1987), which was published by Douglas Ingram many years after Horney died.  However, her close friend and colleague Erich Fromm also worked with Suzuki.  Fromm mentions Yoga and Buddhism often in his books, and Suzuki and Fromm (along with another colleague) co-authored Zen Buddhism & Psychoanalysis in 1960.Horney equated Zen mindfulness with living fully in each moment, with wholehearted concentration (Horney, 1945, 1950; Ingram, 1987).  This general theme is expressed quite eloquently in one of Horney’s favorite books, Zen in the Art of Archery (Herrigel, 1953), as well as in Herrigel’s other book, The Method of Zen (Herrigel, 1960).  In the latter book, Herrigel expresses the essence of Zen from his perspective, presenting a psychological view that fits well with the relational-cultural perspective we will examine in the next chapter:…the Zen Buddhist is far from limiting his feelings of joy and compassion to human beings and to every aspect of human existence.  He embraces in these feelings everything that lives and breathes…The Zen Buddhist is constantly confirmed in his experience that there is a fundamental communication which embraces all forms of existence…He does not pass by the joys and sufferings of others without taking them to himself and reinforcing them with his own feelings… (pp. 119-120; Herrigel, 1960)Fromm knew Suzuki at the same time as Horney, but the two men really got to know each other when Suzuki spent a week in Mexico in 1956, and Fromm then visited Suzuki in New York.  In 1964, Fromm wrote to Suzuki that every morning he read a passage on Zen or something by Meister Eckhart (a well-known Christian mystic).  In addition, Fromm was interested in Kabbalah and Sufism, as well as other spiritual approaches to understanding people (Funk, 2000).  Fromm examined many of these diverse perspective in books such as The Nature of Man (Fromm & Xirau, 1968) and Psychoanalysis and Religion (Fromm, 1950), and he drew interesting connections between the physical activities of Yoga and Wilhelm Reich’s somatic psychology (Fromm, 1992).  He was by no means an unqualified supporter, however, suggesting that some self-proclaimed gurus can do more harm than good when seeking to serve their own selfish interests (usually in order to make money; Fromm, 1994).In their work together, Suzuki provided a brief overview of the essentials of Zen practice, which focuses on living life:Zen may occasionally appear too enigmatic, cryptic, and full of contradictions, but it is after all a simple discipline and teaching:To do goods,To avoid evils,To purify one’s own heart:This is the Buddha-Way.Is this not applicable to all human situations, modern as well as ancient, Western as well as Eastern? (pg. 76; Suzuki, Fromm, & DeMartino, 1960)Fromm, for his part, identified ways in which Zen principles appeared to be compatible with psychoanalysis.  He considered psychoanalysis to be the Western parallel to Zen, since Zen arose from Indian rationality and abstraction mixed with Chinese concreteness and realism, whereas psychoanalysis arose from Western humanism and rationalism.  Fromm described the Western world as suffering from a spiritual crisis, resulting from a change in the pursuit of the perfection of humanity to the pursuit of the perfection of things (e.g., technology).  Since we have lost our connection to nature, and to ourselves and our communities, we have become anxious and depressed.  Psychoanalysis was developed to help us deal with these anxieties, as an alternative to the flawed ways in which we had been dealing with them in the past:  religion (according to Freud).  As described very simply in the quote above, Zen Buddhism also seeks to resolve human anxiety, simply by doing good and avoiding evil.  In Freudian terms, doing good results from knowing oneself, and one can only know oneself through the process of psychoanalysis.  Then, a person can act in accordance with reality, rather than being influenced by unconscious, repressed, and dysfunctional psychological processes.  Therefore, Fromm considered the essential nature of psychoanalysis to be compatible with Zen (Suzuki, Fromm, & DeMartino, 1960), a perspective supported more recently by Mark Epstein in his comparison of Buddhist meditation and psychoanalysis, Thoughts Without a Thinker (Epstein, 1995).Fitting even more closely with Fromm’s perspective on human development and psychoanalysis, Zen art is intimately involved with nature, and with humanity’s relationship with nature (Herrigel, 1953, 1960; Suzuki, Fromm, & DeMartino, 1960).  Fromm used Zen perspectives to reform his views on psychoanalysis and development.  He considered the development of the individual to be a re-enactment of the development of the species (i.e., ontogeny recapitulates phylogeny).  Prior to birth there is no anxiety, following birth we must deal with anxiety.  We can try to deal with our anxieties by regressing to our earliest state, or we can attempt to complete the process of birth, which Fromm described as a lifelong process:Birth is not one act; it is a process.  The aim of life is to be fully born, though its tragedy is that most of us die before we are thus born.  To live is to be born every minute. (pg. 88; Suzuki, Fromm, & DeMartino, 1960)Fromm does not suggest that this is easy, but it is possible.  However, which method is to be preferred:  psychoanalysis or the practice of Zen Buddhism?  That would appear to be a personal matter, since both psychoanalysis and Zen Buddhism aim toward the same goal:This description of Zen’s aim could be applied without change as a description of what psychoanalysis aspires to achieve; insight into one’s own nature, the achievement of freedom, happiness and love, liberation of energy, salvation from being insane or crippled…The aim of Zen transcends the goal of ethical behavior, and so does psychoanalysis.  It might be said that both systems assume that the achievement of their aim brings with it an ethical transformation, the overcoming of greed and the capacity for love and compassion. (pp. 122-123; Suzuki, Fromm, & DeMartino, 1960)Just as love is considered an essential element of being Christian, compassion is essential to Buddhism.  In The Art of Loving, Fromm (1956) noted that a person cannot love themselves if they do not love others.  Thus, love and compassion are intertwined, one must love and care for all people, indeed for all things, to be fulfilled.  Zen teaches this peace in many ways, even sword fighting and archery become art when performed by a Zen master.  Fromm acknowledged that a Zen master of sword fighting has no wish to kill and experiences no hate for his opponent.  Although a classic psychoanalyst might insist that the sword master is motivated by some unconscious hatred or anger, Fromm says that such a psychoanalyst simply does not grasp the spirit of Zen.  Likewise, citing Herrigel’s Zen in the Art of Archery again, Fromm notes how archery has been transformed from a military skill into an exercise of spirituality, or in non-spiritual terms, a form of playful violence (as opposed to aggressive violence; Fromm, 1964, 1973).Thus, the practice of mindfulness, the art of love, compassion, all play similar roles in helping people to be aware of who they are and of their relationships with others.  In addition, they encourage and support a genuine desire to be connected to others, and to maintain healthy interpersonal connections, even in such diverse activities as eating breakfast, going to work, or practicing archery.Personality TheoryCreated July 7, 2017 by userMark KellandAlthough Karen Horney was the first female psychoanalyst to openly challenge Sigmund Freud’s theories regarding the psychology of women, she abandoned this line of work when she came to the conclusion that culture was a more significant issue than gender in determining the psychology of women.  Of course, that decision is based on separating gender from culture, which is not something that everyone would agree with.  In the 1970s, the Stone Center was established, as a group of pioneering women began the work that led to a theory on the personality development and psychology of women based on a combination of seeking and forming relationships within a cultural context.  This work continues today, and the theory is being expanded to include the personality development of all people, women and men.However, not all female theorists have separated themselves so clearly from Freud’s basic theories.  One of those women holds a special place in the history of psychology, since she was instrumental in helping both Sigmund and Anna Freud escape Austria as the Nazi regime came to power.  Her name was Marie Bonaparte.  Bonaparte was a princess, a great-grandniece of Emperor Napoleon I of France, a patient and student of Sigmund Freud, and in 1953 she wrote Female Sexuality (Bonaparte, 1953).   Her perspective on women closely followed a traditional Freudian view.  In contrast, Nancy Chodorow’s feminist perspective has significantly separated her perspective on the psychology women from that of Freud.  Still, Chodorow has worked to combine feminist and psychoanalytic perspectives, in a manner similar to the object relations theories put forth by the Neo-Freudians, and she has focused on the unique female experience of mothering.We will begin this chapter by examining the work of Princess Bonaparte, as an example of a female theorist who remained true to Freud’s own theories.  Then, we will examine the alternative presented by the members of the Stone Center group.  Finally, this chapter will conclude with a brief look at Chodorow’s efforts to combine the psychoanalytic and feminist perspectives.Feminine Psychology in the Freudian TraditionAlthough Sigmund Freud believed that female psychology was the result of an incomplete and frustrated male development, he also acknowledged that he did not fully understand the psychology of women.  A particularly interesting passage can be found in his New Introductory Lectures on Psycho-Analysis:One might consider characterizing femininity psychologically as giving preference to passive aims.  This is not, of course, the same thing as passivity; to achieve a passive aim may call for a large amount of activity…we must beware in this of underestimating the influence of social customs, which similarly force women into passive situations.  All this is still far from being cleared up… (pgs. 143-144; Freud, 1933/1965)So, Freud did suggest the possibility that cultural factors (social customs) play a role in the development of girls and women.  Furthermore, he acknowledged that there was much more to learn about these developmental processes.  Freud ended his lecture on femininity with the following:That is all I had to say to you about femininity.  It is certainly incomplete and fragmentary and does not always sound friendly.  But do not forget that I have only been describing women in so far as their nature is determined by their sexual function.  It is true that that influence extends very far; but we do not overlook the fact that an individual woman may be a human being in other respects as well.  If you want to know more about femininity, enquire from your own experiences of life, or turn to the poets, or wait until science can give you deeper and more coherent information.  (pg. 167; Freud 1933/1965)Published in 1933, this was one of the last times Freud wrote about femininity and the psychology of women.  Always the scientist, Freud suggested that future research will provide a better understanding of this topic.  The Stone Center group, whose work we will encounter shortly, is perhaps the most complete effort made toward fulfilling Freud’s expectations.  First, however, let’s consider the interesting work of Princess Marie Bonaparte, as one of the female psychodynamic theorists who adhered closely to Freud’s perspective.Princess Marie BonaparteMarie Bonaparte (1882-1962), Her Royal Highness Princess George of Greece, was a patient, student, and dear friend of Sigmund Freud.  She was the great-grandniece of Napoleon Bonaparte, Emperor of France, and she married Prince George of Greece in 1907.  As a wealthy aristocrat, she was able to help both Freud himself and the financially struggling International Psychoanalytic Publishing House (known more commonly as the Verlag, from its name in German).  It was Marie Bonaparte who paid a ransom to the Nazis in Austria in order to secure Freud’s release as World War II approached.  Earlier, she had used her wealth to help support the Verlag, which Freud had established to provide a means for publishing a variety of works on psychoanalysis (Gay, 1998; Jones, 1957).  However, Bonaparte was far more than just a wealthy colleague.Bonaparte shared Freud’s interest in antiquities, and often helped him find the best pieces for his collection (M. Freud, 1983).  She also loved dogs, particularly Chows, and Freud came to love that breed as well.  As Freud, his wife Martha, and their daughter Anna waited to escape Austria in 1938, Freud and Anna spent some of their time translating books and articles into German.  One of those books was entitled Topsy, written by Bonaparte about her favorite dog (M. Freud, 1983; Jones, 1957).  But it was not just a simple matter of waiting to leave Austria.  In a particularly poignant story, Martin Freud described the time when his sister Anna was arrested by the Gestapo.  Bonaparte was with her, and demanded to be arrested as well.  However, at that point in time the Nazis were still intimidated by members of the royal houses of Europe, and Anna Freud was taken alone.  She was released later, but Freud is said to have paced all day in his house worrying about her (M. Freud, 1983).  When the Freud family finally left Austria for England, only Bonaparte was able to safely transfer their gold out of the country.  She did so by sending the gold to the king of Greece, who then sent it to the Greek embassy in London (Jones, 1957).  Thus, Freud and his family were financially secure upon reaching London, and Freud was able to repay the ransom that Bonaparte had paid for his release.Bonaparte also served the field of psychoanalysis in an important way other than her own work.  Early in Freud’s career, during the time when he underwent his own psychoanalysis, he had a very close friend named Wilhelm Fliess.  So close were these friends, and at such a critical time in Freud’s career, that their correspondence contained a great many intimate details.  In addition to personal correspondence, Freud sent many scientific notes about his theory to Fliess.  When Fliess died in 1931, his widow asked Freud to return the letters Fliess had written to Freud.  However, Freud had destroyed all of them years earlier, and he wanted her to do the same to his letters.  However, she chose to sell the letters to a bookseller.  The bookseller then sold them to Bonaparte.  When Bonaparte told Freud that she had them, he insisted that she destroy them.  She refused, however, and those letters eventually became available to the fields of psychology and psychiatry (Gay, 1998; Jones, 1953).As Bonaparte became involved in psychoanalysis professionally, Freud both admired and supported her work (Gay, 1998; Jones, 1957).  In a letter to Bonaparte after Freud had reviewed her paper on psychoanalysis and time, Freud wrote “The work does you honor.” (cited in Jones, 1957).  She was also active in establishing the growing field as a whole.  She had helped to establish a psychoanalytic society in France, and Freud later nominated her to be vice-president of the International Psychoanalytic Association.  In nominating her, Freud considered her a worthy candidate:…not “only because one can show her off to the outside world,” but because she “is a person of high intelligence, of masculine capacity for work, has done fine papers, is wholly devoted to the cause, and, as is well known, also in a position to lend material aid.  She has now become 50 years old, will probably turn away increasingly from her private interests and steep herself in analytic work.  I need not mention that she alone keeps the Fr[ench] group together.”  (pg. 586; cited in Gay, 1998).Female SexualityBonaparte first met Freud as a patient seeking help with her frigidity.  The psychoanalysis does not appear to have been successful, but the experience did provide Bonaparte with a new goal in life (Gay, 1998).  Given the nature of her own problems, it should not be surprising that her writings on psychoanalysis focused on sexuality.  Female Sexuality is a wide-ranging book that draws heavily on Freud’s work, but also relies on the works of Horney and Klein.  In addition, she mentions Adler in a somewhat favorable light, though she concludes that both Freud and Adler failed to fully understand female sexuality (as they themselves acknowledged).  Still, she bases most of her work on a paper of the same title written by Freud in 1931, although she attempts to describe the development of girls and women more thoroughly and with more consideration given to potential alternatives.Bonaparte began by describing three types of women.  The so-called “true women” are those who have succeeded in substituting the desire for a penis (penis envy) with a desire to have children (particularly a son); their sexuality is normal, vaginal, and maternal.  They are known as acceptives.  The second type, the renouncers, gives up all competition with men, fail to seek external love objects, and live largely unfulfilled lives.  The claimers, however, deny reality and cling to both psychical and organic male elements present in all women.  While it may appear to us today that the claimers are asserting themselves as being proud to be female, Bonaparte considered this position to cause an inability to adapt to one’s erotic function.  As Freud had described, in order for a girl to develop, she must transfer both her love object (from mother to father) and her erotogenic zone (from clitoris to vagina).  According to Bonaparte, claimers who will not transfer their love object will become lesbians, those who do not transfer their erotogenic zone will never achieve fully satisfying sexual relationships as adults.  In other words, they will be frigid.  Evidence of the psychical nature of the problem of frigidity can be seen in the responsiveness of patients to psychoanalysis.  Patients who are totally frigid, those who experience no pleasure in sexual activity, often respond well to psychoanalysis.  However, women who are partially frigid, those who have more specifically not transferred their erotogenic zone from the clitoris to the vagina, tend to be very resistant to psychoanalysis.  According to Bonaparte, partial frigidity is much more common than total frigidity.  Partial frigidity is also much more common than men realize, since many women hide this reality by pretending to enjoy sexual activity.In agreement with Freud, Bonaparte considers boys and girls to begin their sexual lives equally, in an oral erotic stage focused on the mother’s breast.  As they transition into the anal stage, there are the beginnings of a contrast between active and passive forces:  the expulsion of feces vs. the retention of feces.  The important activity of toilet training begins in this stage, and so social conditioning is also coming into play.  Although Bonaparte, like Freud, continued to emphasize biological factors in sexual development, the acknowledgement that sociocultural factors related to toilet training come into play lays the foundation for girls being pushed toward the passive role that strict Freudians believe they must play.In the transition from the anal stage to the phallic stage, the interplay between active and passive forces that were present during the anal stage takes a different direction in boys and girls.  Very simply, since the boys penis actively protrudes, and his love object can continue to be his mother (or, later, other women as substitutes), the boy will develop an active relationship with the world around him.  Girls, however, ultimately need to transfer their sexuality from the clitoris (which had been related to a small penis until this point) to the vagina, a passive organ with regard to sexuality.  Girls must also transfer their love object to their father (or, later, to other men), and accept the physical penetration that is required for sexual intercourse.  In this manner, according to Freud, Bonaparte, and others, boys grow into aggressive men and girls grow into passive women.  Provided, of course, that women accept their role.Adding to the complexity of this process for girls, who need to transfer the libidinal cathexes from both the clitoris and the love object of mother, is the consequence of when the girl first experiences an orgasm.  Since this potentially can occur at any time during the dynamic processes of transferring these libidinal cathexes, the first orgasm can have a variety of either positive or negative effects.  For boys it is simply easier, since the penis is the one obvious source of sexual pleasure, and the boy never has to transfer his love object away from women (though it should transfer from the mother to another woman).  This difference in sexual development is summed up by Bonaparte:It is on these diverse superimposed courses that the edifice of female sexuality rises.  Constitutional factors are its foundation, and life builds thereon.  Finally, we see the feminine psychosexual structure in its main varieties, varieties more multiform even than those to which male sexuality is susceptible, centered as it is on the phallus, that highly differentiated organ developed to serve the male erotic function.  (pg. 140; Bonaparte, 1953)As an interesting side note, Bonaparte also discussed some of the research that had been done up to that point in time on female circumcision/mutilation, particularly in primitive cultures.  She speculated on how psychoanalytic theories of sexuality might apply to those practices, and how societies today might compare to primitive cultures that have retained such practices.  Can we really say that things have changed since Bonaparte wrote the following passage?It would appear that humans, living in communities, cannot dispense with sexual repression of some kind and that, if it has not succeeded in coming from within, it must go on coming from without.  (pg. 157; Bonaparte, 1953)Before we turn our attention to the Stone Center group, I would like to mention something that may have already entered your mind.  This book is about personality, not sexuality.  While it may be true that sexuality is an important part of life, it is certainly not the same thing as one’s personality.  Unless, of course, you happen to be a strict Freudian theorist, as was Bonaparte.  She does tend to equate the psychology of women with their sexuality.  The psychologists of the Stone Center group, however, have moved beyond this biased view of the psychology of women.Discussion Question:  In keeping with Freud’s original theory, Bonaparte believed that sexual development is much more difficult for girls than it is boys.  Do you agree with that, and if you do, what is it that makes things so much more difficult for girls?  Are there any unique challenges that only boys face?Placing the Psychology of Women in Context:  Sexism vs. FeminismSigmund Freud developed a theory of female sexuality that helped to explain his observation that most people in psychoanalysis were women.  Karen Horney agreed that women suffer more than men, but she placed the blame on men, and the patriarchal culture that maintains special privileges for men only.  Despite the fact that Freud and Adler admitted that they did not fully understand women, and that there were many women among the neo-Freudians, it was a long time before a unique perspective on the psychology of women developed.In contrast to women like Princess Bonaparte and Helene Deutsch, the first leading female member of the Vienna Psychoanalytic Society (the very first female member, Hermine von Hug-Hellmuth, was murdered in 1924; Deutsch, 1973, Sayers, 1991) and the first person to devote an entire book to the psychology of women (a two volume set published in consecutive years; Deutsch, 1944, 1945), Jean Baker Miller and her colleagues at the Stone Center developed a unique theory on the psychological development and personality of women.  Although their theory, based on personal relationships and culture, developed in part as a result of increasing interest in feminist studies in the 1960s and 1970s, the work that continues today strives to include the personality development of all people (women and men).There are some women, however, who believe that a feminist perspective can be combined more readily with Freud’s basic ideas (see, e.g., Mitchell, 2000).  Nancy Chodorow has worked to combine both psychodynamic and feminist ideas into a comprehensive theory.  Although the result is basically an object relations theory, Chodorow’s work has been reserved for this chapter due to her inclusion of the feminist side of the perspective.It is also important to note that the work of the Stone Center group and Nancy Chodorow is much more contemporary than that of Bonaparte, Deutsch, and many of the neo-Freudians discussed in this book (most of whom are no longer alive).  Thus, the development of feminist perspectives on the psychology of women continues today.Human Relations and a Modern Perspective on the Psychology of WomenDespite the valuable contributions of women included among the neo-Freudians, and Horney’s suggestion of womb envy as a powerful counterpart to penis envy, theories on the psychology of women remained framed within a psychodynamic perspective.  Until, that is, the 1970s, when Jean Baker Miller and a group of women colleagues created a revolution in our potential understanding of the psychology of women.Jean Baker Miller and the Stone Center GroupIn 1974, Wellesley College in Massachusetts established the Center for Research on Women, and in 1981, the Stone Center for Developmental Services and Studies was established.  Working in collaboration as the Wellesley Centers for Women (WCW), the Center for Research on Women conducts a variety of interdisciplinary studies on matters related to gender equity, while the Stone Center focuses on psychological well-being and a comprehensive understanding of human development, particularly the psychological development of women.  A wide range of information on the WCW can be found on their website (http://www.wcwonline.org).Jean Baker Miller (1927-present) was a practicing psychoanalyst who had already written one book on the psychoanalysis of women when she published Toward a New Psychology of Women (Miller, 1976).  This book has been credited with nothing less than changing the very way in which we study the psychology of women.  Since the earliest work of Sigmund Freud, women were seen as inferior, and so-called feminine attributes (e.g., vulnerability, weakness, emotionality, helping others; see Miller, 1976) were seen as psychologically weak.  Miller and her colleagues at the Stone Center have worked hard to change that perspective.  Typically working in collaboration, publishing collections of writing in books such as Women’s Growth in Connection (Jordan, Kaplan, Miller, Stiver, & Surrey, 1991), Women’s Growth in Diversity (Jordan, 1997b), and The Complexity of Connection (Jordan, Walker, & Hartling, 2004), they developed a relational model of human development that focuses on connections, disconnections, mutuality, and empathy.  Examples of how relationships can be damaged when one person seeks connection but the other person seeks to disconnect are all around us.  Miller presented an example from a patient she identified as Doris.  Doris was trying to share with her husband how upset she was after a day of finding it very difficult to deal with her colleagues at work:He listened for about ten minutes.  That’s about his limit.  Then he said, “Aw, don’t let the bastards upset you.”  That’s just the sort of thing I suspect.  It sounds fine and even supportive.  But it really means, “Shut up.  I’ve heard enough.” (pg. 100; Miller, 1976)More recently, as members of the Stone Center became increasingly aware of the role of culture in development, the relational model evolved into the relational-cultural theory (RCT)of human development (Jordan & Walker, 2004).  The inclusion of culture in the theory should not be underestimated or taken for granted.  Psychological theories are not immune from the bias inherent in societies that seek to maintain their hierarchical power structures.  Western societies are highly individualistic, and when individuality is favored in our theories the result can be unfortunate:In a culture that valorizes separation and autonomy, persons with cultural privilege can falsely appear more self-sufficient and so will be judged as healthier, more mature, more worthy of the privilege the society affords.  Those who enjoy less cultural privilege (whether by virtue of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, or economic status) will more likely be viewed as deficient and needy.  They are more likely to be subject to systematic disadvantage and culture shaming. (pgs. 4-5; Jordan & Walker, 2004)Relational-Cultural TheoryMiller established the foundation of RCT by addressing two fundamental differences in status and power that are part of human life: the differences between children and adults, and the differences between boys/men and girls/women.  Children lack the privileges of adulthood, but this is temporary, and it is the role of parents and other adults (e.g., teachers) to help children grow up.  In most modern cultures, women have typically lacked the privileges of men, and to a large extent that continues today.  Since male/female differences are permanent, cultural phenomena usually develop in which men seek to maintain their power and status over women.  This is the reason why psychology, a field traditionally dominated by men, has equated feminine attributes with psychological pathology (Miller, 1976).  Curiously, not only men participate in this bias.  Anna Freud did not challenge her father’s views on girls and women, Melanie Klein claimed to be closer to Freud’s point of view than even his daughter was, and Marie Bonaparte believed that women who do not accept the role defined for them by men would never be able to experience sexual satisfaction.  It is not uncommon for a subordinate group to participate in this adaptive role, according to Miller, and as a result women may have gained their greatest advantage:  the responsibility, and with it the privilege, of the intense emotional connection necessary to raise a child (Miller, 1976).Considering the primary object relation necessary for a child to grow and thrive, the relationship between a mother and her infant, a relationship in which the mother serves the child first, many feminine attributes take on new meaning.  Vulnerability, weakness, helplessness, emotionality, participating in the development of others, cooperation, and creativity are all essential to giving oneself over to others, which is necessary to care for a baby, while at the same time allowing that baby to develop its own sense of mastery over the world and its own sense of individuality.  Should it be surprising that women want to relate to other adults in the same way?  According to Miller, one of the greatest difficulties men face in relationships with women is that men actually want to reclaim those very same elements of personality that men have delegated to women, and that gave rise to the woman’s defined role in society.  In accomplishing this task, as women advance their own place within society, men will have to adapt their coping strategies (Miller, 1976).Now let us consider the essential elements of RCT.  In RCT, the concept of object relations is viewed in light of connections vs. disconnections.  People seek connections:  family, friends, clubs, church groups, neighbors, the list goes on.  Very few people live in isolation, and fewer still want it that way.  But this raises a question about the meaning of the word “self.”  If a woman’s experience is based on connections, do women develop a sense of self, and what is the nature of that self?  Miller (1991) suggests that we don’t get caught up in technicalities regarding the words we use to define this construct, but simply accept an open-minded definition of self.  It appears to her that boys do develop a more clearly delineated sense of self, whereas girls may develop a more encompassing sense of self.  Women do talk more about relationships, but not because they want or need to be either dependent or independent.  Women simply want to be in relationships with others, to be connected.  Looking more closely at the meaning of being “dependent” in a relationship, Stiver (1991) suggests that women often adopt a role of apparent dependence in relationships with men in order to connect with them in a manner acceptable to the man’s gender role perspective.  It does not appear to her that women are any more dependent in relationships than men, but when they do seek connection they do so by whatever means necessary.  So when it is necessary for forming connections, Stiver considers “to depend” on another as part of an interpersonal dynamic:I would like to define dependency as:  A process of counting on other people to provide help in coping physically and emotionally with the experiences and tasks encountered in the world when one has not sufficient skill, confidence, energy, and/or time.  I have defined it as a process to stress that it is not static but changes with opportunities, circumstances, and inner struggles. (pg. 160; Stiver, 1991)Making successful connections involves two other important processes:  mutuality and empathy.  These closely related constructs come into play in meaningful relationships.  Mutuality refers to both participants (or more, as the case may be) in a relationship being fully engaged in the connection.  Each person is interested in and aware of the other, they are willing and able to share their thoughts, feelings, and needs, they do not manipulate each other, they value the connection, and they are open to change.  Perhaps most importantly, they also experience empathy with other persons (Jordan, 1991a).  Empathy, according to Jordan (1991b), is “an understanding of that aspect of the self that involves we-ness, transcendence of the separate, disconnected self.”  Jordan acknowledges a connection between her views and those of Kohut, who considered empathy an essential aspect of the mirroring that helps an infant to first see itself through the eyes of another as it plays with its mother (see also Mitchell & Black, 1995; Strozier, 2001).  Empathy is a complex cognitive and emotional process necessary for a sense of separateness within connection, and self-empathy is an important therapeutic construct (Jordan, 1991b).   Interactions of such intimacy are not new to object relations theory, but are usually only considered in the context of the earliest relationship between mother and child.  RCT considers mutuality and empathy as essential attributes of connections made by adults, particularly connections made by women.  An often overlooked consideration is that mutuality and empathy need to be taught and learned.  For example, Winnicott’s “good enough mother” does not simply appear when a child is born (Surrey, 1991).Discussion Question:  Relational-cultural theory proposes that people seek connections in their lives, such as family, friends, church groups, clubs, etc.  What groups do you consider yourself to be a member of, and how important to you is that membership?  Do you, or people you know, consider the groups they belong to as more important than themselves?The source of most suffering in life, according to RCT, is disconnection.  An acute disconnection can often be recognized by the loss of energy in the moment.  This may be followed by negative emotions, such as sadness, anger, or depression.  There may be a heightened sense of self-consciousness and relational awareness may slow down, we may even become immobilized (Jordan, 2004).  After repeated disconnections we may become fearful of turning to others for help and support, even when we need it most.  This has been referred to as the central paradox of connection/disconnection.  When we hurt someone we love, or are hurt by someone we love, the conflict often leads to withdrawal and the development of strategies of disconnection.  As a consequence of this ongoing process, although we all share a desire to connect with others, those who have been hurt by loved ones believe that they can connect with others only if they hold back part of themselves when they try to connect.  Within the context of RCT, this desire for connection, while holding back from it, is also known as the central relational paradox (Miller et al., 2004).This may very well be a significant factor in the fact that so many marriages end in divorce.  Marriage is probably the most significant connection that adults in Western cultures choose to make, and so divorce would also be the most significant disconnection.  There is certainly no easy answer for the high divorce rate, but an interesting possibility has been suggested by Harville Hendrix, who specializes in marital therapy.  Hendrix (1988) believes that we choose a mate based on the unconscious recognition of characteristics they have in common with our parents, and that we hope through marriage to solve the psychological and emotional damage we suffered as children.  In other words, we think we are connecting with our spouse, but we really want to reconnect with our parents.  Unfortunately, this creates a false connection, a connection that cannot easily be resolved, especially given the apparently different communication styles of men and women (Gray, 1997, 1999, 2002, 2004; Vincent, 2006).So how do we resolve problems of disconnection?  Relational therapy is based on the idea that a therapist can provide a relationship in which the patient can experience connection, mutuality, and empathy.  In looking at the therapeutic approaches of people like Sigmund Freud, Winnicott, and Kohut, Judith Jordan (1997a) argues that the actual engagement in the therapeutic relationship is aloof and disconnected.  She feels that an obvious and overlooked aspect of therapy is that the more engaged the therapist is the more one enhances the self, the other, and the relationship.  Consequently, the therapeutic relationship can enhance one’s capacity to be more whole, real, and integrated in other relationships as well.  This relational perspective, which provides the basis for relational therapy, is based on three principles:1.  That people grow in, through, and toward relationships.2.  For women in particular, connection with others is central to psychological well-being.3.  Movement toward relational mutuality can occur throughout life, throughmutual empathy, responsiveness, and contribution to the growth of each individual and to the relationship. (Jordan, 1997a)Once again we see the importance of empathy.  Empathy involves more than just sharing the other person’s feelings, it stresses the capacity to “feel into” the other person’s experience (Jordan, 1997a; Mitchell & Black, 1995).  Kohut emphasized the importance of empathy, as did the humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers.  In contrast to empathy, the emphasis that has existed in therapy on the autonomous self as the “real self” can result in the creation of pathologically isolated individuals, individuals who feel self-sufficient, but who are really disconnected from others.  Relational therapy does not focus on the self, but rather on relationships.  To accomplish this goal, the therapist must be willing to respond to their patients in an authentic manner (Miller, Jordan, Stiver, Walker, Surrey, & Eldridge, 2004).  If the therapist can convey to the patient that they are moved, the patient will be moved, knowing that her/his thoughts and feelings have reached another person, they do matter, and they can be part of a mutual experience.  This is connection, and appears to be the key source of change in relational therapy (Miller et al., 2004).Discussion Question:  Relational therapy focuses on providing an environment for the patient to experience connection, empathy, and mutuality.  It requires an engaged therapist.  What are your ideas about how therapy should be conducted?Connections Across Cultures:  Janet Surrey andEastern Perspectives on Human RelationsJanet Surrey is one of the founding members of the Stone Center group, and for over 20 years she has been working to synthesize Buddhist mindfulness with relational-cultural theory and relational therapy.  Most people think of mindfulness meditation as a solitary activity, but at its core is a desire to connect with the universal spirit that we all share.  So, from the latter perspective, mindfulness meditation fosters a deep connection with others.  Connecting with others is also at the core of relational therapy (with disconnection seen as the primary cause of suffering in life).  Thus, the practice of mindfulness meditation can enhance the connections sought in relational therapy, and relational therapy can enhance one’s attention to the present moment in both relational therapy and in one’s everyday relationships.Of particular value for the therapist, the practice of mindfulness meditation can deepen one’s empathic skills.  According to Surrey, during a mindfulness-informed therapy session the skilled therapist is attentive to their own sensations, feelings, thoughts, and memories as the patient is describing the same psychological phenomena.  This helps the therapist to both experience the patient and attend to the flow of the relationship.  Thus, the therapist can be fully aware of the shifting qualities of the connections and disconnections within the therapeutic relationship.  Although therapists typically rely on verbal interaction, the practice of mindfulness offers a unique opportunity to experience a conscious silence.  Just such a rare opportunity for silence in one’s busy life can be created in the genuine connection that results from a healthy and meaningful relationship (Surrey, 2005).Surrey is by no means alone in drawing connections between Buddhist mindfulness and either the value of relationships or relational forms of therapy.  His Holiness the Dalai Lama has emphasized that human beings cannot live in isolation, our very nature is that we are social animals.  Our communities, indeed our entire society, require us to live cooperatively.  This cooperation is best accomplished through love and compassion.  It is not enough, however, to care only for those who care for us.  When we harbor negative emotions toward those whom we do not like, those negative emotions harm ourselves.  Thus, the Dalai Lama considers it essential to cultivate equanimity, the ability to care for everyone equally, no matter whom they may be (Dalai Lama, 2001, 2002).  Likewise, the widely respected Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh (nominated for a Nobel Peace Prize by Martin Luther King, Jr.) stresses the importance of practicing mindfulness within a supportive group, and then extending the compassion that arises to all others (Thich Nhat Hanh, 1995, 1999).Within the field of psychology, the well-known therapist/authors Jon Kabat-Zinn, who developed the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction program, and Steven Hayes, the founder of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, have emphasized the importance of relationships with other people and the world around us, as well as how mindfulness can help to enhance those relationships (Hayes, 2004; Hayes et al., 1999; Kabat-Zinn, 1990).  In addition, personal relationships appear to be particularly important for a variety of groups in American society, including:  African Americans (Belgrave & Allison, 2006; Cook & Wiley, 2000; Taylor et al., 2004), Native Americans (Axelson, 1999; Trujillo, 2000), aged individuals (Belsky, 1999; Hillier & Barrow, 1999), and those who are dying (Kubler-Ross, 1969, 1983).  Indeed, the ability to form and maintain healthy relationships has been identified as a vitally important human strength and an important aspect of well-being (Berscheid, 2003; Cantor, 2003; Cloninger, 2004; Sears, 2003).   Thus, by examining cross-cultural factors that aid in developing and maintaining healthy relationships and, therefore, a healthy personality, we can continue to move toward a psychology that benefits us all.Nancy Chodorow’s Psychoanalytic Feminism and the Role of MotheringIn 1974, Juliet Mitchell suggested that Freudian psychoanalysis offered an important means for understanding the psychology of women, and that feminism should embrace Freud’s theoretical perspective.  She did not suggest that Freud was necessarily right about the psychological development of women, but she did emphasize the importance of object relations theory and the interactions between mothers, their children, and families as a whole (Mitchell, 2000).  Some 50 years earlier, Helene Deutsch had suggested that women do not seek to become mothers due to penis envy, but rather they want to replace passive femininity with an active role as a woman and mother (Deutsch was analyzed and trained by Sigmund Freud himself; Deutsch, 1944, 1945, 1973, Sayers, 1991).  Deutsch (1973) wrote that she had great admiration for Marie Bonaparte as a person and a scholar (Deutsch knew Bonaparte personally), but Deutsch found little of interest in Bonaparte’s strict application of Freudian theory to the psychology of women.  The person best known today for attempting to combine elements of Freud’s theory with an objective perspective on a psychology of women is Nancy Chodorow (1944-present), a sociologist and psychoanalyst who has focused on the special relationship between mothers and daughters.In 1978, Chodorow published The Reproduction of Mothering.  Twenty years later, she wrote a new preface for the second edition, in which she had the advantage of looking back at both the success of her book and the criticism that it drew from some.  Chodorow acknowledged that many feminists felt obliged to choose between a biologically-based psychology of women and mothering (the essential Freudian perspective) versus a view in which the psychology of women and their feelings about mothering were determined by social structure and cultural mandate.  Chodorow believed that social structure and culture were important, but she insisted nonetheless that the biological differences between males and females could not be dismissed.  Indeed, they lead to an essential difference in the mother-daughter relationship as compared to the mother-son relationship (Chodorow, 1999a).According to Chodorow, when a woman becomes a mother, the most important aspect of her relationship with any daughter is the recognition that they are alike.  Thus, her daughter can also become a mother someday.  This special connection is felt by the daughter and incorporated into her psyche, or ego.  It is important to remember that much of this is happening at an unconscious level.  It is not as if women choose to favor their daughters over their sons, and it is not as if women reject their sons.  Chodorow argues that it just simply happens, because of the biological similarity between females.  As a consequence of this special relationship, daughters are subtly shaped in ways that lead to what we often think of as feminine attributes:  a sense of self-in-relation, feeling connected to others, being able to empathize, and being embedded in or dependent on relationships.  For Chodorow, the internalization of the mother-daughter relationship, from the daughter’s point of view, is the development of a most important object relation.  As adults, many women feel a desire to have children, which is often described as a maternal instinct or a biological drive (the feeling that their “biological clock” is ticking).  As an alternative, Chodorow suggests that these feelings have instead been shaped by the unconscious fantasies and emotions associated with the woman’s internal relationship to her own mother (Chodorow, 1999a).In contrast to the development of daughters, Chodorow suggests that sons are influenced by the essential feelings of difference conveyed by their mother.  Consequently, and in contrast to women, men grow up asserting their independence, and they will be anxious about intimacy if it signals dependence on another.  In addition, within the cultural framework of society, men develop a greater concern with being masculine than women are concerned with their femininity (Chodorow, 1999a).The cultural differences between men and women, as well as the early childhood differences in their relationships with their parents, create problems for the typical family structure.  Since men tend to avoid relationships, they are unlikely to fulfill the relational needs that women have.  In addition, young girls most likely experience their relationship with their father within the context of their relationship with their mother, whereas young boys have a more direct two-person relationship with their mother (in terms of heterosexual relationships; Chodorow, 1999a).  Therefore, in order for a woman to balance the relational triangle she experienced with her mother and father, and the subsequent intrapsychic object-relational structure she developed, she needs to have a child.  In other words, by having children, women can “reimpose intrapsychic relational structure on the social world,” and they can relate to the father of their child in terms of a family structure they were familiar with in childhood.  Furthermore, having a child recreates the intimacy a woman shared with her own mother.One critique of The Reproduction of Mothering that Chodorow agreed with was her emphasis on a universal mother-daughter experience, within a heterosexual nuclear family.  In her later writings, Chodorow emphasized individual subjectivity, still in relation to others, but also within a wider range of family structures and individual situations (Chodorow, 1989, 1994, 1999b).  She felt that a balance between the principles of psychoanalysis and an understanding of culture was the best overall approach:A psychoanalysis that begins with the immediacy of unconscious fantasy and feeling found in the clinical encounter illuminates our understanding of individual subjectivity and potentially transforms all sociocultural thought…At the same time, feminist, anthropological, and other cultural theories require that psychoanalysts take seriously the ways in which cultural meanings intertwine with and help to constitute psychic life.  (pg. 274; Chodorow, 1999b)Personality Theory in Real Life:  The Experience of MotheringWhen Helene Deutsch wrote the first books devoted entirely to the psychology of women, the second volume was devoted entirely to Motherhood (Deutsch, 1945).  She described motherhood as providing a wonderful opportunity to directly experience a sense of immortality.  She distinguished, however, between motherhood and motherliness.  Motherhood, according to Deutsch, refers to the relationship between mother and child, which varies from individual to individual and from culture to culture.  When Deutsch wrote of motherliness, she referred to both a quality of character that pervades a woman’s whole personality and emotional phenomena related to a child’s helplessness and need for care.  In a motherly woman, one’s own need for love is transferred from the ego to the child, and this maternal love has the chief characteristic of tenderness (Deutsch, 1945).  Of course, no two women experience motherhood in exactly the same way.  Deutsch recognized two primary types of mothers.  The first type is the woman whose world is opened to a new reality by the birth of a child.  She feels no loss, and she develops her own personality fully only after having a child.  The second type of mother feels restricted and impoverished by her children.  Such women, according to Deutsch, have spent their emotionality on other pursuits (such as sexuality, or a career), and they lack sufficient libido to withstand the emotional burden of children:The woman’s relation to her husband and family, her economic situation, and the position of the child in her existence, give a personal color to each woman’s motherliness. (pg. 55; Deutsch, 1945)Deutsch had several miscarriages in the early years of her marriage, causing her a great deal of anxiety during the pregnancy that finally gave her a son named Martin.  In her autobiography, she speaks both fondly and proudly of her only child, as well as of the wonderful relationship he shared with his father.  With regard to being a busy, working woman during her son’s childhood, Deutsch wrote that this could only be worked out on individual basis, and with some necessary compromise (Deutsch, 1973).Although fathers play a role in parenting, only a woman can really understand what it’s like to be a mother.  Two entertaining books written by mothers about their relationships with their children are good-enough mother (Syler, 2007) and Mother Shock: Loving Every (Other) Minute of It (Buchanan, 2003).  In addition to stories about the joys of raising children, they also discuss the trials and tribulations as well.  In accordance with the work of the Stone Center group, they also talk about how important it is for mothers, as women, to have meaningful relationships with friends both in and beyond their families.  In a chapter entitled mommy needs a playdate, Syler writes:…behind every good-enough mother is another good-enough mother with whom to commiserate, shop, or just hang out and have a crab-fest.  It’s a healthy dose of friendship that fuels us to fight another day. (pg. 189; Syler, 2007)But what happens when a woman is not a good mother?  Christine Lawson has studied the mothering abilities of women who suffer from borderline personality disorder.  In Understanding the Borderline Mother (2000), Lawson has identified four types of borderline mother:  the waif (characterized by helplessness and hopelessness), the hermit (characterized by perfectionism and worrying), the queen (characterized by demanding attention and feelings of emptiness), and the witch (characterized by a desire for power and the very real threat of being physically abusive).  The tragic challenge for the children of borderline mothers, according to Lawson, is that our mother is the first thing any of must understand in our lives, and our survival depends on understanding her.  Although borderline personality is highly resistant to treatment in therapy, as with any personality disorder, therapy can help women with borderline personality disorder to avoid passing on the condition to their children.While it is understandable that mothering would be difficult for women suffering from psychological disorders, it also appears to be true that no such thing as a “maternal instinct” exists.  Anthropologist Sarah Hrdy, who has been elected to both the National Academy of Sciences and the American Academy of Arts and Sciences, has studied infanticide in different cultures and other primate species.  She found it quite surprising that some mothers (human, ape, and monkey) will contribute to the death of their own child (or children), and in some cases then mate with the male that killed them.  While this is a complex issue, covered by Hrdy in a rather lengthy book entitled Mother Nature (Hrdy, 1999), she raises some profound questions.  For example, if women instinctively love their children, why do so many women directly or indirectly contribute to their deaths?  Since fathers contribute equally to the genetic makeup of the child, why haven’t fathers evolved a greater interest in and commitment to caring for their children?  And perhaps most interestingly, “just why did these little creatures evolve to be so plump, engaging, and utterly adorable?” (Hrdy, 1999).Consider your own mother and your relationship with her.  Do you consider her to have been a good-enough mother?  Whether you are a man or a woman, how has your relationship with your mother affected your relationships with others (especially if you have children)?Culture, Gender, and PersonalityLet’s begin by defining masculinity and femininity. Masculinity refers to the attributes generally ascribed to males and femininity, you guessed it, refers to the attributes generally ascribed to females. In Freud’s view, little girls had to come to grips with their perception of being unsuccessful boys. In his era, this was not an uncommon viewpoint and led him to believe that biology is indeed destiny. This begs the question of is this true? Are the physiological differences between males and females determinants of psychological gender differences?Remember our discussion of how our culture influences personality development and expression? Likewise, social change has brought about how we view not only what we consider masculine and feminine but what we consider to be appropriate personality traits in both genders. An example would be in the early to mid-20th century America during the struggle for women’s rights. As women came to be viewed as less inferior to men, people began finding less confirmation of their inferiority. There are studies that have revealed that people can agree that there are many personality qualities that are masculine and feminine. However, studies of validity and effect size indicate that there is significant overlap in both characteristics.There are some psychological spheres where there are some reliable gender differences. These differences include spatial abilities, verbal abilities, communication, and aggression.Gender Differences and Personality CharacteristicsThere are biological influences on gender differences. From the moment of conception, gender is determined either by the presence of chromosomes XX indicating a female or XY indicating a male. Androgen initiates the development of male genitalia but not female genitalia. Can the presence of androgen exposure affect personality and brain development? There are two types of evidence to support that possibility, animal studies and human studies of humans with prenatal hormonal or genetic irregularities. A person born with only one X chromosome has Turner’s syndromeAs a child continues to grow and develop into and during puberty, there are significant changes in the percentages and variations of hormones produced in males versus females. During puberty, there is a cyclical release of hormones in females that are related to mood changes during the cycle. This biological reality has given rise to notions of personality changes in women such as hysteria, irrationality, and violence. In truth, the actual pressure of hormonal cycles on personality is quite small in many women.We are now going to discuss the gender differences in personality from the eight perspectives we have previously studied. There are some very important outcomes associated with our assumptions about personality differences between males and females. If for example, we accept that gender differences in personality are biological than we will tend to view them as fixed, constant and even established by Divine will. If they are seen as a learning process responsive to reinforcement then they are more able to change.Here’s an interesting, brief exploration of Gender-Conflict theory as a framework for understanding personality differences.Evolutionary ConsiderationsThe evolutionary rationalization for gender differences is based primarily on the idea that successful procreation requires different sexual behaviors of men and women. This theory states that a man’s biological imperative requires him to have many sexual partners in order to spread and preserve his genes. This idea of natural selection, therefore, explains the gender differences. On the other hand, women have a finite amount of time in which to bear children as opposed to a man’s infinite amount of time to produce sperm. As a result, women are more selective in their sexual contacts and often have fewer contacts than men. Animal research conducted on maternal instinct indicates that there is a biological basis for gender differences in nurturing. However, there are circumstances both in the animal world and the human world where it is evolutionarily adaptive for a mother not to nurture her child. For example, it is not unknown for mothers of both the animal kingdom and our own to murder or abandon sickly or unwanted offspring.In some ways, gender difference in personality from the psychoanalytic approach are similar to the biological approach. It posits that personality traits such as aggression, envy, and docility arise from the very physical structures of males and females. This is a biologically based explanation.APPROACHESNEOANALYTIC APPROACHSOCIAL LEARNING APPROACHCOGNITIVE APPROACHTRAIT APPROACHHUMANISTIC APPROACHINTERACTIONIST APPROACHSocial Roles TheoryAlice Eagly took a look at what she calls social roles theory. She posits that the social behavior we see in people is rooted in social roles including gender roles. Furthermore, it is noted that studies of gender differences across cultures suggest that many gender features are culturally defined. Some leading authorities in this field include Margaret Mead, Ann Oakley, John and Beatrice Whiting and C.P. Edwards.Our stereotypes concerning sex and love hypothesize that men want sex and women want love and never the twain shall meet. However, recent evidence suggests that the differences between genders are not as large as previously believed.Characterizations of women’s sexuality have fluctuated widely throughout history. As noted previously, culture plays a major role in providing a framework for learning sexual behaviors. American culture has long promoted the idea of a double standard for sexual behavior. It is considered somehow less offensive for a married man to engage in infidelity than a married woman. With more information about female sexuality available have come cultural changes, which are closing the space between the differences in behaviors of males and females. Contrary to customary belief, studies have shown men to be more romantic than women, are more likely to enter a relationship looking for love to happen, love more in the relationship, and are more distressed by the loss of the relationship.Physical Health and PersonalityIS PERSONALITY LINKED TO HEALTH? IF SO, HOW?Psychosomatic medicine is predicated on the belief that the psyche or mind affects the soma or body. This idea is not new, in fact, both the ancient Romans and Greeks recognized a mind body connection. One significant way that personality influences health is through behaviors that foster healthy or unhealthy practices. In other words, what we do may elevate our chances of acquiring a disease. People who have difficulty with emotion regulation may be more inclined to smoke or drink too much in order to mitigate their moods. Additionally, social circumstances can sway some people to engage in risky or adverse behaviors. Are certain personality types more likely to pursue certain types of behaviors? Let’s take a look.Frank Farley’s type T theory is an approach related to Zuckerman’s sensation seeking personality. Zuckerman crafted a scale called the SSS or sensation seeking scale to assess the relatively constant personality traits of thrill and sensation seeking. The T theory suggests some people have a biological internal arousal insufficiency that leads them to seek stimulation.CAN STRESS MAKE US SICK?How we perceive our symptoms, how much we pay attention to bodily sensations and what meaning we ascribe to our symptoms can be affected by our mood. There is some support for disease caused personality changes such as the changes we see take place with Alzheimer’s disease. Additionally, genetic conditions and organic diseases such as thyroid disease can affect mood and personality.The diathesis-stress model of disease posits that although a person may be predisposed to getting a disease, unless the environmental stressors prompt the disease, it will not occur. This model proposes that the predisposition is the weak link that will yield in the presence of stress.Bernard Lown a renowned cardiologist has designed a model which tries to clarify various principal factors in sudden cardiac death. Included in his model are factors such as electrical instability, pervasive emotional states such as depression and a triggering event. Several studies have linked personality and health, but these findings do not permit the simplistic idea that personality causes disease. Many people with emotional problems do not become ill, while many people without these types of problems experience illness.Borderline personality disorder is a disorder that is characterized by impulsive, sometimes self-destructive behavior, brittle self-identity, and unstable, volatile relationships. All personality disorders include elements of behavioral patterns that mar the functioning and security of the individual.Two cardiologists Meyer Friedman and Ray Rosenman put forward the concept of the Type A behavior pattern. This is a pattern of behavior closely associated with coronary heart disease. The hallmarks of this personality are time urgency, impatience, aggressiveness or hostility, competitiveness, tenseness and a high need to achieve. The subsequent almost constant state of arousal of the sympathetic nervous system can lead to heart injury.The Notion of Learned HelplessnessIn 1975 Martin Seligman proposed his theory of learned helplessness. He posited that in the face of having no control to influence outcomes no matter how hard the individual tries he will eventually give up trying even when the circumstances change. He has learned to be helpless. This learned helplessness has been proven to be related to health and longevity as evidenced by the experiences of Korean War prisoners of war.Lewis Terman in 1921 gathered hundreds of boys and girls whom he nicknamed Terman’s Termites and studied them over the years. Other researchers also studied them over a long period of time. It was discovered that children who were rated as more conscientious lived longer, smoked and drank less and experienced fewer accidents. Sociability, however, was not linked to better physical health. It was found that children, who were deemed more cheerful died sooner, smoked and drank more and engaged in more risky behaviors. However, this was not the full answer. In part, it was found that children of divorce experienced earlier mortality and were more likely to also divorce. It was also discovered that males who had adjustment problems and mental health issues were also at bigger risk for early death.These findings from the Terman study suggest that trying to link personality to health is both an exciting and daunting area of research due to the complexity of factors involved in both personality and humans themselves.Have you ever thought to yourself that person brought on his own illness? If you have then you understand the concept of blaming the victim. This kind of thinking places an unfair burden on the victim for the responsibility of their illness. If you have engaged in if only you would eat better, sleep less, play more, etc., then you have unwittingly blamed the victim for their circumstance. Why do we do this? Well, first of all, it gives us a sense of control over our own health. If the victim brought on the disease himself by his choices, I just won’t make those choices and I will be well. In other words, if I do all of the right things I won’t get sick. We as humans want predictability in our world and we look for cause and effect. However, it is also true that people should take responsibility for making the best choices for their help and not engage in learned helplessness behavior.WHAT ABOUT SELF-HEALING PERSONALITIES?ConclusionPersonality theorists have drawn much inspiration in the humanistic approaches when studying self-healing. These perspectives focus their lenses on positive human functioning. Victor Frankl, among others, stresses the importance of dignity, purpose and meaning in order for one to live a good life. This idea of creating meaning in the world is echoed in Antonovsky’s notion of the importance of a sense of coherence. He shifts the focus from illness to health and from helplessness to purpose.ReferencesChodorow, N. (1999). 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